- 4 years ago
- Wedding: March 2013
Experienced moms and prepared expecting moms alike, I need help : (
Ok so this is not quite an “I didn’t know I was preggo” episode but it kind of feels like it.
We started the adoption process and long story short our home study was approved on Feb. 12th. On Valentine’s Day (2 days later) we had a match, and yesterday we found out were were chosen by the mom. She is due in April. This is so rare, unheard of, and just insanely quick. We were expecting to wait for a year or more! Obviously, we feel so blessed. THIS IS NOT A TYPICAL ADOPTION STORY.
For the full story as it unfolded go here:
We got the call yesterday and we are so thrilled and excited but the mom could change her mind after giving birth so we’re trying to not go too crazy.
My mistake: I was up late last night thinking about it all. I read through the April 2014 Babies Part 7 thread. Mid way through I just broke into tears. I feel so behind, I feel like I have no control over anything (duh), and I feel overwhelmed by the amount of info. I feel like we have so much to do and so little time. This is our first child and I’m getting that new mom anxiety. I know it will be fine but right now I just need a friend to tell me what I need to focus on, what I need to do, what our game plan should be.
I work with kids and know what to expect in the developmental process. What concerns me most is the practical parts of caring for a baby. What major decisions do I need to make after the baby is delivered? Obviously, I want the birth mom to choose how she wants the baby delivered because I want her to be comfortable. But after birth is there anything I need to be concerened about at the hospital?
Also…stressed about sleep, eating, what do I NEED to buy. I don’t want my baby getting a flat head from swings, etc.
I am one of those people that likes to be an informed consumer. I do research on products and read tons of reviews. I love reading threads and making my own conclusions. However, I have SO MUCH going on right now that there is no way I can just sit and do that.
Bees please give me tips, links to articles, anything!
The only thing I have figured out is I want an ergo carrier, a Nuna leaf, and that I shouldn’t go crazy buying clothes. I don’t think I want to let my baby cry it out because he’s already going to have attachment issues, and it’s not really recommended for adopted children.