Post # 1
So, I work with these 2 super catty girls at work. They are constantly messaging eachother through the day. I notice often that they will burst out giggling and the receptionist who has a clear view to my office will look over at me, so I know they are talking about me.
While they were out for lunch yesterday, I decided to set the receptionist’s messanger to auto save her conversation so I could read it (bad, I know!!).
On their conversation, I found several incriminating things:
1- they were making rude comments about my outfit (not that I care what they think, but still, grow up)
2-complaining about the boss, calling him a F**ker and the accountant telling the secretary to tell the boss she’s on the other line if he calls
3-mostly non-work related conversation throughout the day.
What do I do?
Can I bring this to the bosses attention being that I snooped on her computer?
Should I anonymously leave the printed conversation on the boss’s chair? (it’s a small office, so it will eventually get back to who did it anyways)
Should I talk to the girls about what I found?
Should I just keep collecting information for when I have a more honest way to catch them?
I am so mad right now, I’m shaking, and can feel my face getting all red.
Post # 3
I think you should try to let it go. Nobody likes a tattletale.
ETA: I’m sorry that they said mean things about you. Try not to let it get to you. By rising above it, you can prove to yourself that you are better than they are.
Post # 4
I can’t vote in the poll because my answer is drop it. Bad mouthing co-workers (even when warranted) is not looked upon favorably. Do you guys review eachother? That would be the time to mention they need to work on their professionalism.
Post # 5
I’d leave an anonymous note to one or both the girls
“Next time you’re going to talk badly about everyone you work with (including the people who sign your paychecks), make sure no one else has access to your conversations. I’m pretty sure our boss would not look kindly on you using company time and resources to have these types of chats all day long.”
Not tattling, but sending a very loud message for sure.
Post # 6
Drop it, please. No crime is being comitted. I’d be pissed if ANY of my coworkers where talk like this (about the boss, another worker, etc) but its not like they are stealing company money or anything. Yeah, there professionalism sucks and they’ll probably screw up themselves. Go about YOUR BUSINESS, and don’t worry about them.
Post # 7
Print it off and anonymously leave a copy on their desk!
Post # 8
I would say drop it for now, if it’s a small enough office I’m sure their true colors will eventually come to light. I am sorry you have to work in that environment though!
Post # 9
Like a PP said, it’s likely they’ll screw up themselves eventually. I’d just let it go – snooping around someone’s computer and changing their settings to spy on them REALLY isn’t something you want to admit to, even if it is for a “good reason”. You may try dropping a hint to your boss during the next private meeting that you feel the messenging privileges are being abused by some, but I’d leave it at that.
Post # 11
I agree with PPs. Just let it go. Try to steer clear of them and realize that their opinion of you doesn’t matter. They’re mean and will certainly get their just desserts sooner or later.
Post # 12
Print it and leave it on his desk.
Post # 13
I honestly feel like what you did was a bigger problem than the inappropriate conversations. If they are not doing their jobs properly, that would be the issue to address.
Post # 14
I also vote for drop it. I don’t see anything positive coming of it, esp since it’s a small office and you said they’d figure it out.
Post # 15
I like what KatyElle suggested. Let them know someone is on to them without going to your boss and without saying who caught them. Pay attention to your body language afterward though, you don’t want them to notice that you’re acting differently (even if it’s subtle) because they’ll be paying a lot of attention to people trying to figure out who it is.
Post # 16
I’d just go the anonymous route because I don’t go to work to be laughed at and harassed all day. It’s annoying and distracting, and no one should have to put up with that in a professional environment. I wouldn’t be out to get anyone fired, but sometimes you’re completely within your rights to say “Hey, you know what? Someone is on to your bullshit. Cut it out.”