My SO is working away until our anniversary getaway next Friday and I've just unsuspectingly stumbled (honestly!) upon the ring box. I've been ogling it for over an hour contemplating opening it up, popping on the ring and prancing around the house but... I've resisted! Pats self on back for incredible act of willpower.
So my fellow bees... what would you do if you were in my position?
@katlovesjames: DON'T DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!
As a former waitingbee who HUNTED for the ring for almost a year, it's sooooo worth it when you see it for the first time when he's on his knee. You don't get that feeling back.
I would not look in that box or in that area at all. Why? You'll ruin all the hard work and planning it took for him to plan out his proposal to you. Don't be a ruiner. Just let it be. 
I agree - DON'T OPEN IT!!
I found the ring box ages ago and could not help myself - i was in complete disbelief at the time...
I now wish i hadn't opened it as it's taken away some of the impending suprise for me.
Don't do it! Hang around on hear and chat with all the other waiting bees to pass the time :)
It'll be on your finger before you know it!
well i'd say don't look but he's gone for a veryyy long week lol i wouldnt be able to stop myself from looking for a whole 7 days curiosity would propbably get the best of me but if you have the willpower don't do it lol!!!
DON'T LOOK!!!!!
I found the box and resisted for about 5 minutes, then gave in and looked and kept trying it on over the next week or so. Luckily I didn't have to wait long. I never told him I found it and I feel really bad about it. Plus it kind of ruined the engagement as I had to act more surprised than I was.
Basically, please don't look, learn from my mistake!
@katlovesjames: I would love to say that I would not look but honestly I would! I would put the ring on and enjoy myself for an hour then I would put it back. I don't have that much willpower
I'd look at it maybe even try it on. I hate surprises though so that's just me.
I would have to look. I tried but the hubs hid it pretty well. I just can't stand not knowing things.
I found it and looked. FI doesn't know and I kind of felt bad about it, but at the same time I don't regret it because I wasn't so overwhelmed by the ring at the time of the proposal that I could actually comprehend and listen to all of the thoughtful, sweet things he said. I hear about too many women who just remember the question (if that) and not all the other lovey stuff! I was able to focus on my FI and not the bright shiny... Well focus MORE lol.
ETA: I also did not have a complete element of surprise the entire time as I helped to pick out the ring. While of course seeing it in person and online are two VERY different things, I knew what to expect for the most part. If you have no idea what it is supposed to look like, don't peek. Your future FI will want to see your face.
Step away!! If you can, tell him you found it and get him to hide it somewhere else to remove the temptation completely? Well done for resisting!
Do not peek! This is a surprise you'll never get back, so just think about seeing it for the first time when he's down on one knee asking you to be his wife. Let the ring be and wait for that once-in-a-lifetime moment!
This happened to me. My finace went off to work and I began my homework and saw the ring box. I, of course, picked the box up. Then I just sort of stared at the box for way longer than I ever want to admit before setting it back down where I had first seen it. It took every bit of self control that I had not to peek. I'm so happy that I didn't. It would have made waiting so much harder and the surprise would have been gone. And my finace loved the surprise that I had.
When my fiance got back from work I told him about the ring box and he hid it in a place safe enough that I couldn't find it.
I don't know that I'd be able to resist looking. If you really don't want to see it, tell your FI to hide it again.
To a point, I ruined my own proposal by being the nosiest person. I knew my FI was proposing that way and I had been looking at the ring every day for a week when he was at work. While it was a great moment, it would have been better if I hadn't been so damn nosy.
We're in the same boat! I half snooped expecting not to find anything, cause i was looking for something in his desk and it's like he didn't even try to hide it! When I saw the black box in a red bag, I poked it, and then I closed the drawer. That was a few weeks ago.
Still no proposal and I have opened that drawer two times since then, just to see if it's still there! I have not opened that box though!
I'm fairly certain I know which ring is inside it, but I don't want to ruin it either way! It helps that I have a pic on my computer of the ring that I'm fairly certain it is and I look at it about once a day haha!
I wouldn't do it! There is only so much surprise that you have left to preserve :)
We can be strong together!!!!!!
I would try really hard not to look at it if it were me.. just because I would feel bad about ruining the surprise. Maybe ask him to move it if you feel comfortable.
Thanks for your replies bees. All this talk about ruining the surprise... I get it but then again I had a hand in designing/selecting the ring with my SO. I have a pretty good idea of what to expect but I know, seeing it in person is a totally different experience altogether. And I know my SO wouldn't want me seeing it prior to the proposal, so I'm exercising all the willpower I can muster and have vowed to step back from the ring box and stay away.
@katlovesjames: Good luck in the willpower thing.
Here's my take on it: since you KNOW it will be a ring that you like, delay the opening of the box to when he is with you.
I could maybe see checking it out before the proposal IF you had no idea what it looked like. Personally, I would not want DH picking out a ring without my guidance because I'm the one wearing the thing. I would not to be surprised with a ring I didn't like.
But you--You are in a great position so continue to sit tight. You know you will love the ring. It will not be an unhappy surprise. Enjoy the tension and the fun of anticipation!
Pretend you didn't see it.
As someone who went a long time being engaged without a ring, when the ring came to my house (FH intended to be there when it got there) I couldn't help myself and I opened it, put the ring on and kinda ruined the surprise of it all.
I think this is why FI kept it in his pocket 100% of the time. :P Don't open it!!!! It's so worth it seeing it for the first time when he proposed!
I am not advocating this, but there is no way I'd be able to resist opening it, putting it on, prancing around with it, and probably taking pictures. And that's having picked it out myself and already knowing exactly what it looks like, haha.
You're a stronger person than I am!
I say don't open it, but my undying curiosity would probably end in me opening it if I ever stumbled across a ring box haha. My SO doesn't call me "Nancy Drew" for nothing ;]. Just wait and be surprised- having no expectations ahead of time will make it that much more beautiful :).
Don't open it!! Even though you already know what it looks like, take advantage of the fact that there is still a little bit of surpise left! You will be glad you waited once you have the ring on your finger!
Thankyou for your replies. As I posted above, I've decided to step back from the ring box and stay away until he proposes... BUT... my desire to pop the top and take a peek isn't entirely a result of my inability to control my waiting bee urge to soak up the sparkles. I'm concerned about the custom-made ring that was ordered and whether it was made to our specifications. My SO would take a look at it and think "It's pretty and shiny, she'll love it", whereas I will look at the stone size, shape, cut, clarity, the setting, the workmanship, the quality of the metal and diamonds, etc. to ensure everything is as it should be. Given there's only a very small window of time under the company's satisfaction guarantee policy to return the ring if something's not right, the temptation to sneak a peek is hard to resist.
@katlovesjames: you know what OP? Given that very practical reason for looking at the ring (to approve it while under a short warranty) get a look at that ring ASAP. Youe decide when that ASAP will be, before he is home or after.
But if it is wrong, how will you tell FI that you looked at it?
Anyway, I think that you have a de ent reason to peek.
I would not look at it! Even if I picked it out, I wouldnt have wanted to see it before he's proposing!
My FI just came home with something, made me stand in the kitchen while he went and hid it in the bedroom. It's driving me INSANE that I know that there's something in our room for me that I can't have. However, I'm not going looking for it. He hid it for a reason, and I'd hate to ruin his surprise. And I love surprises.
I just hope the surprise isn't that it's the wrong ring!
Don't open it! Just bask in the knowledge that it's in the house! :D
@alwaysmsh: +1
I am a big fan of honesty, also just can't lie to save my life. I'd do that. Tell SO I had seen the ring box and to hide it somewhere else, but not to look. You know he has it! Don't ruin the surprise of actually seeing it for the first time!!! EEEEE EXCITED THOUGH!
@katlovesjames: Sorry didn't read all the way to the end - retract my earlier opinion - you should probably look for warranty purposes but I would again feel really guilty for knowing and then if it IS wrong, what will you do?
What did I do? I totally snooped.
What should I have done? I should have waited our of respect for FI. It didn't take any of the fun out of the proposal though.
I'm glad you have more self control than me 
I found the ring box and DIDN'T OPEN IT! I avoided it very well and didn't peek and was really happy I saved it for the moment when he showed it to me!!
Thanks for your replies bees. Like I said earlier though, the temptation to take a peek is due to my need for reassurance that the ring is as it should be. If my SO proposes after November our option to return the ring if it's not right or has any issues is null and void. We're going away for our anniversary this weekend so fingers crossed he pops the big one then to save me stressing out about it.
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