My SO is working away until our anniversary getaway next Friday and I’ve just unsuspectingly stumbled (honestly!) upon the ring box. I’ve been ogling it for over an hour contemplating opening it up, popping on the ring and prancing around the house but… I’ve resisted! Pats self on back for incredible act of willpower.
So my fellow bees… what would you do if you were in my position?
@katlovesjames: DON’T DO IT!!!!!!!!!!!
As a former waitingbee who HUNTED for the ring for almost a year, it’s sooooo worth it when you see it for the first time when he’s on his knee. You don’t get that feeling back.
I would not look in that box or in that area at all. Why? You’ll ruin all the hard work and planning it took for him to plan out his proposal to you. Don’t be a ruiner. Just let it be.
I agree – DON’T OPEN IT!!
I found the ring box ages ago and could not help myself – i was in complete disbelief at the time…
I now wish i hadn’t opened it as it’s taken away some of the impending suprise for me.
Don’t do it! Hang around on hear and chat with all the other waiting bees to pass the time
It’ll be on your finger before you know it!
well i’d say don’t look but he’s gone for a veryyy long week lol i wouldnt be able to stop myself from looking for a whole 7 days curiosity would propbably get the best of me but if you have the willpower don’t do it lol!!!
I found the box and resisted for about 5 minutes, then gave in and looked and kept trying it on over the next week or so. Luckily I didn’t have to wait long. I never told him I found it and I feel really bad about it. Plus it kind of ruined the engagement as I had to act more surprised than I was.
Basically, please don’t look, learn from my mistake!
Step away from the ring box!!!!
@katlovesjames: I would love to say that I would not look but honestly I would! I would put the ring on and enjoy myself for an hour then I would put it back. I don’t have that much willpower
I’d look at it maybe even try it on. I hate surprises though so that’s just me.
I would have to look. I tried but the hubs hid it pretty well. I just can’t stand not knowing things.
I found it and looked. FI doesn’t know and I kind of felt bad about it, but at the same time I don’t regret it because I wasn’t so overwhelmed by the ring at the time of the proposal that I could actually comprehend and listen to all of the thoughtful, sweet things he said. I hear about too many women who just remember the question (if that) and not all the other lovey stuff! I was able to focus on my FI and not the bright shiny… Well focus MORE lol.
ETA: I also did not have a complete element of surprise the entire time as I helped to pick out the ring. While of course seeing it in person and online are two VERY different things, I knew what to expect for the most part. If you have no idea what it is supposed to look like, don’t peek. Your future FI will want to see your face.
Step away!! If you can, tell him you found it and get him to hide it somewhere else to remove the temptation completely? Well done for resisting!
Do not peek! This is a surprise you’ll never get back, so just think about seeing it for the first time when he’s down on one knee asking you to be his wife. Let the ring be and wait for that once-in-a-lifetime moment!
This happened to me. My finace went off to work and I began my homework and saw the ring box. I, of course, picked the box up. Then I just sort of stared at the box for way longer than I ever want to admit before setting it back down where I had first seen it. It took every bit of self control that I had not to peek. I’m so happy that I didn’t. It would have made waiting so much harder and the surprise would have been gone. And my finace loved the surprise that I had.
When my fiance got back from work I told him about the ring box and he hid it in a place safe enough that I couldn’t find it.
I don’t know that I’d be able to resist looking. If you really don’t want to see it, tell your FI to hide it again.