(Closed) Found this chat between my husband and another woman. Is this cheating? (Long)

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
5921 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

That conversation is completely inappropriate, especially the “we’d be getting naked part.”  I think you have to draw the line on what’s acceptable, but for me, this would absolute not be.

Lots of hugs.

Post # 4
1314 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Linz1231: Ditto. Definitely crosses the line into inappropriate. Hope you guys work it out. 

Post # 6
5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I don’t have anything to add to what the other posters said. Definitely not cool in my book, we’d be having some serious discussions. *hugs*

Post # 7
1798 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Totally inappropriate. I’m so sorry πŸ™

Post # 8
2496 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I would have an issue with the naked part and when she invited him to the Inn where she would be this weekend, then called him a ‘chicken’.  Totally inapproriate.

Post # 9
7609 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Same here, the

Jack: If I was there we’d probably be getting naked right about now!

was the kicker for me.  You confronted him and he said it was no big deal?  I’d ask him to delete her immediately.  Not sure what else to tell you, sorry you’re dealing with this. πŸ™

Post # 10
6598 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

IMO – yes it’s emotional cheating – he was talking to another woman about having sex with her.
IMO I also think that he was the one that initiated by bringing up that time at McCoys.
Either way your Darling Husband has to repect that he hurt you and that YOU consider it cheating at this point that’s all that matters!
What does he have to say for himself over the whole ordeal?

Post # 11
244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

That is a questionable conversation for a newly married man to be having in my opinion. I’m sure some will disagree with me but I’m old fashioned and have more conservative values. In his defense, she kind of drove the convo in the wrong direction with the naked comment.


I wouldn’t say it’s “cheating” but it is absolutely hurtful and not appropriate in my opinion. Just communicate with him and don’t shut down. Letting him know how it makes you feel as his wife is the best thing you can do, and if he wants to work with you as your husband then hopefully it won’t happen again.


I’m sorry you are upset…..   πŸ™

Post # 12
1145 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m not sure if it matters who started it really, since they both continued the talking.  I’m so sorry.  This would have really hurt me too.  I wouldn’t call it “cheating” but it certainly crosses the line.  Again, so sorry.

Post # 14
2697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Woah. At first it seemed like harmless flirting, but you husband definitely was the one who upped the ante there and crossed a line, then it ended very very shady on both ends…I’d be extremely suspicious.

I don’t think this conversation is 100%  indicative of him cheating, but it does suggest that he has a wandering eye is likely to cheat, which he will need to adress honestly with you if he ever expects to regain your trust. Making casual plans or “jokes” to cheat is unacceptable.

I’m sorry. πŸ™

Post # 15
7609 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Were you looking for something when you were logged into his fb?  Like, had you suspected you’d find something or…..why were you in there, if you don’t mind me asking.  To me, it would make a difference if this was a “repeat offense” sort of thing.

Post # 16
7779 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Oh. hell. no. “We’d be naked.” Nope, your ass isn’t going to be naked anywhere except in the dog house, buddy.

They are both equally guilty, but I hate to say that I think he started the inappropriate bit. I hope you can work this out.

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