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Four weddings... not the TV show. My life.

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    Helper bee
    mh.albania    June 26, 2011   Berat, Albania

    I'm getting a little stressed out, so this might be slightly vent-ish.

    I'm having four weddings, and the first one is just over a month away. And I'm going to be out of the country for three weeks. Can I scream now? :)

    Let me explain...

    My first wedding will be on May 20, 2011. It will just be my FI and I, at the courthouse. The main purpose for this is legal reasons, but I do want to make an actual wedding out of it, and do some photos.

    My second wedding, which I consider the "main" wedding, will be on June 26, 2011. This wedding will be 30 of our closest friends and family at a intimate wedding in Maitland, Florida.

    My third wedding will be on July 3, 2011. This wedding will be very casual, but will have over 400 guests in Portland, Oregon.

    My fourth wedding will be overseas in Albania, on a so far undetermined date, and will also be huge (and formal) with around another 400 people. 

     

    Did I mention that we will be moving to Albania on July 7th, and that our budget for the first two weddings is $4,000?! The third and fourth will be paid for by the parents, since those weddings are mainly for them. Oh, and that I'm going to be leaving for Turkey in five days and staying there a month, something that I cannot control?! And the other small detail - all of my bridesmaids and my family live far away, so I'm doing this alone. And that both FI and I have full time jobs? Good lord.

    Anyone have any tips for keeping my sanity?

     
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    bunnyfoofoo    May 14, 2011   Wilmington, NC

    ha ha ha! I love how you put the words "causal" and "400 guests" in the same sentence :-)

     

    That is a crazy schedule! Why so much travel?

     
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    mh.albania    June 26, 2011   Berat, Albania

    Haha, well yeah I know it sounds insane. But that one will be more like a big picnic then a fancy wedding. I can't do it any other way. Can you imagine how much it would cost?!

     
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    mh.albania    June 26, 2011   Berat, Albania

    The travel comes with the job, I rarely stay within my own continent for more than six months straight. FI and grew up in missionary families, so our families still both live overseas. I'll be in Turkey for a series of meetings with the organization my parents work for, as FI and I are trying to get jobs with them as well. Our first job in Albania is only for six months, hence the move and the job hunting at the same time. We're always moved around a lot, but I'm not used to having weddings thrown into the mix.

     
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    Hirondelle    July 21, 2012   Portsmouth, NH (getting married in Montesquieu, France)

    I'm going on my 3rd wedding, pretty much in the same circumstances than you. The 1st one was on september 13th : it was our "legal" wedding at the town hall, lasted about 3 minutes, and our main objective was to get all the immigration stuff out of the way. We just took the day off at work and the 2 of us escaped to a brewery in Indiana because that's what we do :) The 2nd one was about a week later: we had lunch in a restaurant with 20 of our friends and families who flew to Chicago for the occasion, read our vows, exchanged our rings and enjoyed having our loved around us. I think we spent about $1500. The next one will be the "big" one: big formal affair with the religious ceremony, big puffy dress and reception, and all the stress it involves. It is obviously not the way I thought my life would go.But in the end, I don't care since I am married to the man I love and I would say I do a thousand times, and that what marriage is about.

    Best of luck with all the stress, planning and pressure but I promess you: at the end of the day, it's all worth it.

     
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    Helper bee
    mh.albania    June 26, 2011   Berat, Albania

    Three days left till I leave... agh!!!

     

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