Post # 1
Hey ladies, I don’t post often but really value your thoughts. You always give such good advice! I have just under four weeks to go and am really starting to stress out about the big event. I just feel so emotional that every little thing seems to derail me. The crazy thing is that we are actually in great shape with the planning! Have almost everything lined up including the parties the days before the wedding and I just have a few more projects to deal with: printing/laminating a map for OOT guests and making the programs (already decided on a super simple design). But I can feel the stress mounting — I can’t get my mind to relax and find myself worrying about everything. I don’t understand it! I have a high stress job and am used to handling stress well. But I am really in a funk. I keep telling myself to just relax and think about how awesome it is going to be, but it isn’t calming me down (and then being unable to chill out only makes me more anxious). Any advice for managing anxiety in the final weeks? I got a massage this weekend, which helped a bit, but would love to hear any other advice.
Post # 3
Hey Girl! First off, BREATHE!! You are not alone. Many brides (including myself) have been there and you will be OK.
When was the last time you walked away from all things wedding? If it has been a while, then take a few days off and relax. This actually helped me out a lot. If this doesn’t work you just have to remember that everything will work out and not everything will be perfect.
I am sure you will be OK. Good luck! Yay, to 4 weeks left!
Post # 4
I feel you! We’re a 9-26-09 couple, so we’re also at the home-stretch. About a week ago, I was at that point, too. I was incredibly stressed, people weren’t RSVPing, and even though like you, we have almost everything done, I was getting emotional. My FI suggested a day trip, which seems crazy a month before your wedding, but actually, I’m excited about it. I’ve decided what I need is a day-off from wedding stuff. We’re packing up the car and the doggie, and driving an hour to our favorite beach and laying out in the sun, reading non-wedding magazines, eating a packed picnic and bonding with nature all day.
Sometimes, you just need a break from wedding stuff, and when you get back, you feel refreshed and recharged.
Post # 5
I would designate a couple days a week No Wedding Days. Say Tuesday and Thursday you don’t do anything wedding related. Do something relaxing. Go to a movie with your fiance or just got to park. Do a non-wedding related hobby. Grab a coffee with a girlfriend and ask all about what’s going on in her life and don’t talk about the wedding. Just little things to help you feel refreshed and relaxed.
Post # 6
Thanks so much for your thoughts — I think a wedding free day would be a great idea! I didn’t think I was thinking/talking about it all the time, but on reflection, I probably am. The problem has partly been that we’ve both been working like crazy recently (both lawyers) so there is little time left to do something fun and non-wedding related together. But we need to make time for it. Honestly, I feel better even just acknowledging the stress…so thanks for letting me vent.