Post # 1
hello bees. so my boyfriend is going out to monteray bay this weekend … and when he comes back he’s basically already told me that he’s either going to propose or …. 🙁 yikes! i’m really nervous.. and scared. we both thought it would be good to spend this weekend apart because the nerves and anxiety and cattyness and the everything that’s bad about being nervous has been taking a toll on us both. i’m really nervous and scared. i don’t know what to prepare for.. AND I’M A PREPARER so this is really making me very frantic… and i love him so much and i don’t know if i’ll be strong enough to walk away if he realizes that i’m not the one for him even though I KNOW he’s the one for me… pffffffwwwwwwww..
Post # 3
((HUGS))… I’m confused propose or what? Trust me I know about the cattiness!! If you read the email I sent to my M, ick… Just breath sit back and relax.
Post # 4
Eeeek… propose or break it off??! Talk about two extremes! I hope he comes back rested and happy and ready to propose to you… Remember.. if it’s truly meant to be, it will work out!!! I hope everything is okay – keep us posted! *hugs*
Post # 5
So are you excited or uncomforable about the engagement? I don’t get it.
Deep breath, no worries! And he shouldn’t tease you like that! That’s mean! Unless he’s being honest, then i think it’s weird to say he may or may not propose! Oye, i’d go nuts.
Why are you scared about your boyfriend proposing? This should be a really happy, wonderful thing! Excited, yes. Scared? Not so much
Just becuase he’s not ready to propose THIS weekend doesnt’ mean he won’t be ready in a couple of months. How long have you been together? It’s a big decision–rest of your life kind of thing. If you’re truly scared and uncomfortable with the idea of getting married to him, maybe that says something.
Your post is confusing. Not sure what cattiness you’re referring to or if there’s an ultimatum involved or what, that’s all!
Post # 6
YIKES!! Those are two extremes… I would be going bonkers waiting on him. Well, I hope what happens is what you want but either way it always turns out for the best!
Good Luck and keep us posted!
Post # 7
I hope things work out for you! Keep us posted here in the hive. =)
Post # 8
sorry i was super nervous when i orginally posted this. we’ve been friends fr 3 1/2 years and started officially going out a 1 1/2 years ago. we’ve been living together for about a year now. he never thought he’d get married.. and though he says he wants to spend the rest of his life with me… he’s unsure about the constitution of marriage. we’ve been talking about it a lot.. it’s kind of like the movie he’s just not that into you… although i’m hoping for the same ending jennifer aniston ended up with.. i’m really nervous that he’ll stick with his no marriage ideals. i’m sure that i’ll still stay with him no matter what because HE is what matters.. but i’m scared of what that may do to us.. it’s already caused so many fights (i guess more discussion) and tears.. on both ends. i’d be very excited and extremely happy if we got married.. but i’m scared of what i have to face and maybe ultimately decide if we won’t get married.
but my boyfriend talked to me about it earlier and he told me not to worry so i think he’s just waiting to talk to his parents (this weekend in monteray) and get their consent first before he lets me know……. HOPEFULLY that’s why he told me not to worry… he would NEVER lead me on if he wasn’t pretty sure that he would ask me to marry him.
until then i’m on pin and needles… i’ll def. keep you bees updated
Post # 9
Oh, don’t worry then! He may feel in general that marriage isn’t "for him" but I bet being with you makes it worth it. I have a friend like that, and she always tells me, "you know how I’m so independent and a feminist and I don’t believe in X, Y, Z, and marriage is kinda silly and pointless unless you’re going to have kids?" (btw they’re not going to have kids). "Well, (insert hubby name here) makes it all worth it"
He realizes how important it is to you and that it’ll make you happy. Plus, you guys went ring shopping, right?