I know weight is sensitive–for everybody–me included!
(Long story warning)
But it’s also a doctor’s (or PA, or Nurse Practioner’s job) to keep us informed of our own health. When I was in college, my dad had a lengthy battle with cancer and then passed away. Between the stress of working 30 hours a week, going to school full time, and driving home 5 hours every weekend to help my mom with my dad, I gained about 25 lbs in one year. And I was average to begin with, so that put me barely in the overweight category (by maybe, 3-5 lbs.)
For reference, I am 5’7 and got up to about 161 or 163. I think for 5’7, “normal” is anywhere from 125-157). I had a 3 month period where I kept getting sinus infections because my immude system was shot. As I kept gaining weight, I requested the nurse to stop telling me my weight. On my third visit in as many months, she finally said—“Look, I think you should know, you’ve gained 25 lbs since this time last year, according to your chart. You’re officially in the overweight category”.
I was angry. But after a week or so, the sting wore off, and I realized she was right. Not wanting to know wasn’t helping me at all, and allowing me to be ignorant about my own health goes against her job, too.
In the end, it was a wake up call and I ended up losing 18 lbs over the next 3 months. When I went back in that summer for an annual exam, that same nurse was SO EXCITED for me. She even told the other nurses how much weight I’d lost and they all asked me what I’d done (Just starting eating less, honestly. No fancy diet plan).
Now, I’m pregnant. I gained too much weight in my first trimester (I was SO sick with nausea, I basically put my self on bed rest–haha), but because my stomach was even worse if it was empty, I still forced myself to eat crackers or toast about every other hour. Suprise, suprise, the combination of 0 physical activity + force feeding myself to combat nausea = weight gain.
At my last appointment, my doctor straight up told me and I need to stop gaining weight and just maintain until the third trimester, or I’m going to gain way more than 25 lbs. The nurse who weighed me say in a not-very-polite way “wow, you’ve gained a lot for the first trimester!” Um, thanks.
Did it sting? YES. Is she right? YES.
So, it’s possible you just have a rude doctor. But is it also possible you are at the top of the “normal” weight for your height and she’s just doing her job by letting you know?