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You asked for honestly. The dress is beautiful but I'm not a fan of the band at all. If you retry it on tomorrow and you don't love don't feel guilty about going out and finding another dress you truely love. You only get married once so it should be in the dress of your dreams. Best of luck.
I agree with PP about the band, I feel like it's hitting you in an odd place. If you don't love it, look for something else.
I have to agree with the others. xoxox Good luck tomorrow! if you are having 2nd thoughts, do yourself a favor and get a dress you wont have 2nd thoughts about!
@bridetobe7844: @GeekChic: Thank you for being honest. This was an expensive dress that my mom paid for and it would be terrible of me to let her money go down the drain. The way the dress is constructed I don't even think the band can be removed. This is aweful! 
Have you thought of trying to sell it to recoup some of the money? It's a gorgeous dress but I don't think it's for you. Maybe its perfect for another bride out there who will take it off your hands.
It's a gorgeous dress, but it would take alot of confidence to pull it off...I don't have anything against the detail/band thingy but I notice brides who wear this style aren't nearly tall enough or thin enough to pull it off, not that I am tall enough or thin enough because I'm NOT. You have a fantastic figure and you wear the dress quite well compared to other real brides I've seen with similar styles.
Having said that, I dont think I could wear a dress if something about it really bothered me to the point of not being able to stand looking at it anymore.
And yeah, u gotta be careful on those threads. I did find one of my dress, no one said anything bad about it but no one voted for it so it made me kidna sad....but then I found another and people made comments about how much they liked it, and it got the win on votes. So, It depends on who's wearing it, if they appear to be pulling it off with confidence. You gotta keep that in mind.
But I'm sure you've made up your mind at this point. If I were you I'd make a last ditch effort to fall in love with my dress again, but If I couldn't, I'd apologize to anyone who might be hurt, and I'd move forward with selling my dress/looking for a new one.
Love the dress but I don't like the band. Can it be taken off? I love how it fits to your body and with alterations for a perfect fit I think it will be amazing. Having said all that, if you don't feel comfortable in the dress your gonna be worried all the up to your wedding and on that day. Can you try to sell it start with like about $250 off and include shipping. I'm sure you'll get some responses
@BlissfulMrs: Oh no it can't be removed. I really feel for you. Your in such a tough spot.
Hello BlissfulMrs
I think your dress is just beautiful & I like the band. I honestly think the band just needs to be tightened up the dress will look amazing. Your dress is elegant and unique and how beautiful that your mum bought it for you.
I was having major second thoughts about my wedding dress right up until the last time I tried it on. On the day, with my hair and make-up on + a killer pair of heels, I felt amazing. It was wonderful to stand there with my mum and dad, knowing that they bought me this beautiful gown.
You loved the dress when you bought it. Don't second guess yourself.
Hi,
I think the dress is pretty and that you could definitely pull it off no problem. Even the band is fine. I think the only real problem is that it looks a bit big for you so try o get it fitted according to your body. Once that's done, it will be gorgeous:)
I think that once it's altered to fit you, it'll be great. My friend wore a very similar dress in her wedding last month, amd while it may not be everyone's style (it wasn't my personal preference), she looked gorgeous and got A TON of compliments on her dress. People still make comments to her about it. The key is that it needs to fit properly, and as you said, it doesn't right now. I think the finished product will be gorgeous!
This thread inspired me to finally create a WeddingBee account, after being a lurker for awhile.What's throwing me off about the dress is the ruching around your waist and the fit of it. Once you get the dress tailored to your body, it will make all the difference in the world. Once any piece of clothing is measured to fit your figure, you can't help but look great in it. I quite like the band around the hips, but it's just the rouching that's throwing me off. That being said, I can really overlook the ruching and still see that it's a beautiful dress. You've got the figure to pull it off, and it's a very fashion forward, yet classy dress.
I think the dress is beautiful on you! You definitely have the curves to pull off this style. Once it's altered to fit, it will be perfect.
Take a deep breath, and try not to think about the dress until you can try it on again. (Easier said than done, I know!) When you put it on, you will remember why you chose it.
I actually (honestly) really love it on you. It's simple and sophisticated and unusual. I think, as others have pointed out, that the problem right now is that it's not tailored to you. It's bunching in the waist and hips, which throws everything off.
I think the dress is beautiful & you wear it well. It will obviously look even better when you have it altered to fit your curves perfectly. To be honest, I personally THINK i would prefer the dress without the band just because I think the detailing around the neckline & below hip line is what should be the main highlighted points in the silhouette. I think the band around the middle perhaps results in cutting into your long lean line in too many places? Without the band maybe your torso/waist line would look more streamlined & let the classy hip line shine?
This is just my opinion however & it really is me being picky! The dress looks great however, I don't think you're loving it and you really should. If you lose a little money in selling it (on oncewed.com perhaps?) but end up with the dress of your dreams would that make you happier? Try to think about the reasons why it gives you so much stress. If its because you know deep down that you don't love it but don't want to hurt anyone'sfeelingsthen I think they would rather you be happy & get nothing but pleasure from a new dress. If you're worried you couldn't change it, swap it now then remember that NOTHING is impossible. If you're worried because you love it but in other threads its not been loved then remember that everyone looks differet in each style of dress & has different tastes. You cant please everyone but if YOU are happy it will show & eeryone will think YOU look amazing in your dress.
It's a long shot, but if the size of your dress is one they can put out on the racks, see if you can exchange yours for a different display gown?
It truly is my belief that the gown is gorgeous and not at all typical (which is something I've been working toward every step of my wedding planning.) Once you have it on the day of with your hair and make up done, you'll see what everyone else sees in it. :)
Personally I like the band both on your dress and on the other thread. Some people like it and some don't. My dress has pickups which I've learned from weddingbee many people don't them but I still love my dress. I say go try it back on and maybe have someone clip it or hold it the way it will be altered to fit you and see how you feel in it. Don't let others get to you about your dress. Good luck with your decision.
I truly and honestly think it's a gorgeous dress, with the band. I agree with PP who said wait until you get it altered, it will look loads better! Trust me, my dress is huge right now and looking of pics of me in it make me really upset because I feel like I look like a cow, but I know it will be 1000x better once it's altered to fit.
Relax, you are beautiful!
Oh boy....as another poster said you asked for honesty. It's not the ruched band that's bothering me it's the beading around the hips. To me, that beading makes it look like its an attached skirt to the rest of the dress. If that beading wasn't there and the dress just flowed from the ruched band on down, it would flow better. It just makes it look like you're broken up in three parts, bodice beading, ruched band and then hip beading.
Just my honest opinion on the dress, nothing else. You look great in it and it's a lovely dress but that's what I would change if it was the dress I bought.
I too was having second thoughts about the dress I ordered, and kind of still do today. But in all honesty, I think your dress is beautiful on you! As PP have said, it definately takes someone with a certain figure/stature to pull this dress off, and I think you do it perfectly. The band is just a small detail to the dress. Since its the same material and color of the dress, I honestly didnt really pay too much attention. I actually think its adds a little interest and dimension. Plus, alterations make all the difference in the world. Once you have it fit to you perfectly, I think you will love the band. When I see you in the dress, I think you look elegant, romantic, and very sophisticated!
I think the reason the band is getting negative attention is because it seems out of place with the rest of the dress. I like the other details and the way it fits you but that band needs something! What if you added a thin beaded sash to the middle of it to make it pop and match the other details of the dress?? Somethinkg like this...
I don't think the band is a reason to get rid of the dress. It is beautiful and you have the body to pull it off.
The dress is beautiful but if the band bothers you I really like the suggestion about adding a beaded sash. Stop over thinking your dress and remember why you loved it in the first place!
Oh! I totally did not even notice the band. I thought you were talking about the silver on the hips until I went to that other post you linked to. Girl, it looks fabulous! All that matters is how you feel in it. Don't let anyone else's opinion on the dress bring you down!
A few things (this is long sorry):
1. Thank you all for your honesty, I really truly appreciate it. Especially the compliments : ).
2. I visited my dress today, and as soon as I unzipped the garment bag I had a big cheesy smile on my face. I love this dress! To be honest I could probably do without the band, and I was very happy to realize that the band can easily be removed if needed. I tried to photoshop it out to get an idea of what the dress would look like without it, but I dont know that I would like the dress without it. I am terrible with photoshop so I probably didnt do a good job. Is anyone a photoshop master that is willing to photoshop the belt out??? (That would be awesome). I think it would be easy to remove the belt and see what it looks like without, and if it doesn't look good maybe it can be put back on. We will see what happens when I find a good seamstress.
3. I went to look at veils today and took a peek at some of the dresses at the salon. There really weren't any dresses that I liked better than my dress. Unless I wanted to pay upwards of $4000, there were no other dresses that had all the elements that I was looking for. This made me feel much better & I think I made the right choice.
4. My MOH is amazing, she is my best friend for reasons like what she said below:
"Your wedding dress was not an impulse buy. It was calculated an intentional. You also had an emotional experience when you bought that dress. You knew the type of feeling you wanted to have when you put on the perfect dress, and that's what you said you had with the dress that you bought. You need to go back to that moment. When you are having doubts go back to that specific moment. Stop looking at blogs about your dress, stop looking at other women in that dress. This is ONLY ONE OF THAT DRESS and that is the one you bought. No one will ever have the same experience, emotion, and day with that dress. You also need to remember what your wedding day is about. Five or ten years from now you're not going to be worried about if the flowers were perfect, if you hair stayed in place, or if the photographer got that picture at the right angel. You're going to remember the commitment you made. The promise you made to grow together and have special memories. Don't get caught up in the materialistic details because on the day of your wedding it won't matter. I know speaking for myself i'm not going to be sitting there commenting on the centerpiece, i'm going to be commenting on how much i love you, how happy you look, and how excited I am for your future.
Planning a wedding should be stressful, but not torture so STOP torturing yourself. Everything happens for a reason and you bought that dress for a reason, you picked these bridesmaids for a reason, and you picked him for a reason. At this point you shouldn't be regretting anything because its all part of something way bigger than you, and way bigger than your wedding, which is just one day. I hope this doesn't sound harsh. Its coming from my heart and its coming from someone who truly loves you."
I love her! she really know's how to put things into perspective.
Again, thank you all for your kind words and honesty! Band or no band is to be determined. If I remove the band I will post a pic.
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Its 6 months before the wedding and once again I'm having 2nd thoughts about my Priscilla of Boston dress. This is such a horrible feeling. When I initially purchased the dress I was having 2nd thoughts, but everyone reassured me that I made the right choice & wouldn't find everythinig I was looking for in another dress. I probably tried on over 50 dresses at 5 different salons (including Klienfelds) before I chose this one.
I was online searching for bustles when I came across this thread:
http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/freaking-out-mom-criticizing-my-dress-what-should-i-do-is-it-bad
Now I'm feeling like my dress isn't that great & I'mm kinda wishing I chose something else, maybe something more simple... idk. The fact that everyone in the thread hates the band makes me feel like everyone was just being polite about how much they love this dress. Am I being crazy?? Do you hate the band?? Please be honest, does this look good on me?? Keep in mind this dress is not tailored to me either, it fits my thighs but the waist & bust is big. My measurements are something like 32 26 40, so once it is altered I will probably look curvier. I could cry right now... this is stressing me out. My dress is hidden at FI's parent's house, I think I'll visit her tomorrow... maybe that will make me feel better. ughhhh!