Post # 1
so…how soon/long into your engagement before you freaked out? ha!
we got engaged in october, literally 3 hours before i left the state for a 2 month job assignment. i was on the other side of the country, and no one had seen the ring, not even my mom. we decided to do a destination wedding. my dad called me and told me i was making a huge mistake, money blah blah blah i am not changing my mind. BUT…when we had talked to people about the destination thing like a year ago, the majority of people were like “yea we can totally make that work i’ll start saving now!” now that it’s actually happening….my mom and two of my cousins are the only ones from my family that are going. no one is going to be there. part of me is ok with that but part of me is incredibly bummed out.
now we go dress shopping. i fall in love with one at david’s but i “need to be sure” so i go to an alfred angelo salon and try one on that all of my bmaids and mom keep telling me looks way better and is “better for a destination wedding” than the other one…plus it’s less money. i can’t decide i like both dresses but i need to decide today because i already put a deposit down on the one at david’s and mom put a deposit down on the one at alfred angelo’s.
i had heard that having a wedding was stressful but i just didn’t think it was supposed to be this hard. it feels like nothing is turning out like it was supposed to. i keep reminding myself that it’s one day and it’s about my SO and me and no one else but ugh i’m just freaking out a little haha. anyone else have similar stories so i know this is normal? thanks 🙂
Post # 3
@citrisgirl: Um, I was in tears 2 weeks in to the engagement over venues and date selection. There always seems to be one large hurdle at the start but it almost helps. Because once you get it sorted, everything else seems like a breeze in comparison. You’ll make it work. 🙂
Post # 4
@citrisgirl: For us the big thing so far has been that we confirmed the date (which is a Wednesday evening) with the only out of town guest (FFIL) before we set the date because if it’d be a big inconvenience for him to attend we would’ve jumped ahead a couple of months… he was fine with it a couple of months ago.
We found out not too long ago that he is now having a big vacation with his new wife and our wedding date is right smack dab in the middle of this planned trip! You can imagine how FI felt about all of this considering he never sees his father and to him his dad coming was going to be the highlight of the night (besides getting married of course).
I just keep on reminding myself that this is just a single day in our life together and we can’t be letting every little detail stress us out more than we need it to!
Post # 5
I think it’s normal for many people not to show up at DWs. Honestly the fewer people the better IMO. I was so nervous at my wedding and was actually glad that my husband’s family decided not to come after all (long story, no hurt feelings or anything) when it upset me a bit during planning.
It is about you and your SO, and it’ll be beautiful. If some people can’t make it then too bad… but if the most important ones can, that’s all that really matters.
Post # 6
My break down was about a month in, I had a ton of venders telling me they were booked on the same day. And by a ton, I had 5. I went home and had a good 4 hour cry fest and uttered the words “No one is going to have our wedding date free” I had everyone booked by the end of the week…
Post # 7
If you love the DB dress, get that one!
My Mom and BMs wanted me to wear a mermaid. But I wore my MASSIVE ballgown, and lived EVERY second!
And everything will work out!
Post # 8
Go with the dress that you love.
Post # 9
I am planning a destination wedding too… i got engaged back in sept, and planning for jan or april 2015… everyone was excited… except FIs family…
Also, his own brother just turned down being a groomsmen bc he can’t afford it. yeah, it’s so early, but I AM STRESSED!
On the plus side, I did find my dress already, shopped by myself! =)
Post # 10
well the dress that mom put the deposit down has a no returns/no refund policy so that kind of decides the dress. i think because everyone else in my family had the big church wedding with 18 bridesmaids and all that stuff and we are doing such a small intimate thing what i have in my head of what a wedding “should” be is not what my wedding is going to be and i think it’s just now that i’m realizing that to it’s fullest meaning. my best friends and my mom is going to be there..and i will be marrying the love of my life. that’s what matters, right? right!