Post # 1
Posting this under an alternate name so no one I know finds this…
I’ll have been with my now-fiance for 5 years next month, and we’ll be getting married next summer. I was on BC for about 3 years (just before we started dating until 2008): used the patch first, then a version of seasonale, and then loestrin. I started taking it not because I really wanted anti-pregnancy security, but because I had really irregular periods, bad PMS and cramping, bad acne, etc, etc. And BC definitely helped get rid of 95% of that, which was great. But I was taken off BC almost 2.5 years ago because the dr.’s discovered that I had alarmingly high blood pressure and thought the BC might be causing it. I also learned in late January that I have osteoarthritis in my right knee (which will become relevant shortly).
Prior to being taken off BC, my fiance and I did not use additional protection. We have, admittedly, been extremely naive and not used anything at all since I stopped taking BC. But we go with the pullout method. Since being off BC, my periods have been mostly very regular, with only some return of the bad stuff (I still have cramps, lower back pain, etc). I can recall my period coming a few days early once, but like clockwork it comes when it’s supposed to. Except for this month. I am now about 5 days late. I haven’t had a late period in YEARS. I have a few typical PMS symptoms right now – bloating, lower back pain. I can often “feel” when I am actually getting my period, and sort of had that feeling on Monday, ran to the restroom as soon as I could get to one, and nothing. Otherwise I am not feeling anything out of the ordinary. My life is about a 6 on the stress scale right now (with 10 being overwhelming and overstressed), but far less stressful than it has been even since this summer (August was a crazy month for me, but still my period arrived on schedule). If I get less than 7 hrs of sleep, I’m generally very tired, so no change there. I do often get breast tenderness around my period, but not even that has happened.
Im freaking out because, as mentioned, I’m never late. Is it too soon to take a pregnancy test? Have people experienced any period irregularities so long after being off BC?
Just looking for some advice here – please do not judge me on my sexual habits or how I’m choosing to live my life. Be honest but not mean 🙂 Thanks hive!
Post # 3
I would definitely recommend taking a pregnancy test. I believe you can take them as soon as you miss your period, and with you being five days late, there is a good chance. Remember, pregnancy and PMS symptoms can be very similar, so I would go out and buy a few p-tests right away. That way, at least you will have your answer.
Good luck, girlie! I wish you the best!
Post # 4
You can take a pregnancy test–it’s not too early.
(And BTW–it may NOT be pregnancy. I’m pretty regular, but sometimes my body does weird things. Stress and other hormonal things can affect when you get your period)
Post # 5
If your period is late, why not take a test? It will give you peace of mind.
I went off hormonal birth control in the beginning of the year. Prior to birth control I had fairly regular periods, but I was not having sex, so I wasn’t as concerned about it. Obviously my periods were very regular while I was on BC, and continued to be very regular up until last cycle (approximately 8 months after going off birth control). I was worried about being pregnant last month, so I took a test (even though we use other methods of BC, I’m still nervous). Right now I’m waiting on my period, but I’m not worried as much, because it seems things aren’t going ot be every 4 weeks anymore. I really should get back into charting, because it lets you know when you ovulated and you can see the patterns in your cycle.
Post # 6
It’s definitely not too early to test, and I think that might make you feel better (not knowing is the worst!!). ALso, for the future – remember that the pull out method is significantly less effective than other methods of birth control. Pre-cum contains sperm, so even if you don’t accidently mess up and not pull out in time, you can still get pregnant from the pre-cum. If you don’t want to get pregnant, you really need to use another method – over time, you will almost certainly get pregnant accidentally (statistically speaking).
Post # 7
I think you should take one immediately – as soon as your period is late you can take a test (unless you have an irregular cycle).
Around our wedding mine was a few days late but it was due to stress. So even a very regular cycle can be thrown off by a change in schedule, diet or stress.
Post # 8
Go get a test right away. And in the future, at least be aware of when you’re fertile so you can avoid sex during those times.
Post # 9
taking a test will give you a starting place. I’m no expert but make sure you read the directions and such for when you can take it, how long after a missed period. Personally I may wait a little while longer just to see if it comes late. That is likely.
atleast you’re not naive anymore!
Post # 10
No judgment here. But do get the test. I was able to detect well before my missed period, so you should be able to find out right away.
Post # 11
You can take a test now and it should show up (or if not, in a few days). But aside from that, it sounds like you are looking for a more reliable method of non-hormonal birth control. I would recommend getting a copy of the book, Taking Charge of Your Fertility, by Toni Weschler. The book will teach you about the Fertility Awareness Method, which is easy, inexpensive, and medication- and barrier-free (if you abstain during your fertile days). This method is very reliable so you could prevent any future freak-outs 🙂 Lots of bees use this method, including me.
Post # 12
Take a test! It will make you feel better just knowing.
I’m very regular, but stress will every once in a while do things to my cycle, so it’s possible.
Keep us posted!
Post # 13
I dont mean to scare you but my first son was the product of a failed “pull and pray” method. Take a test soooon!!!!!!!!!
Post # 14
Thanks SO much bees! You guys are the best. I went out and bought a test (a 2-pack, just to be sure), and result #1 is negative. I don’t get it! If aunt flow doesn’t make a visit in a few days, I’ll take the other one. I’m 30 yrs old and I feel like I’m in high school doing this. Argh! I know, I know, I put myself at risk in the first place. But I figured I was in the clear, if for almost 2.5 yrs of this and not even so much as a day late, I either have fertility issues or my fiance is that good at, err, restraining himself.
@snmcdowell – thank you for that recommendation – i’m going to go out and buy that book like tomorrow!!!
@rgeddy – i know right! probably a reality check that was much overdue for me!
On the BC note, I just loved the pill so much, and was crushed when I was forced off of it. I kid you not, it totally changed my life! I’m till not totally out of the woods yet with my high blood pressure situation: it’s been in normal range, but not consistently enough to give a green light for going back on BC, so that’s not really an option right now. I’m really freaked out by the IUD (which is pretty much my only option at this point) – I’ve had friends and co-workers tell me how painful the insertion is and the days following, and I read an article recently about a woman who decided to go with an IUD after have 5 kids, had it placed in her, it somehow got dislodged and ended up somewhere else in her body (ewww) AND she got pregnant again! Has anyone out there gone with an IUD?
Post # 15
We’re big fans of charting in this household. I don’t want to do anything with hormones and was also nervous about paraguard… but NFP works great for us.
Post # 16
I have an IUD (Paraguard, the copper one) and freaking love it. Search the boards, there have been a number of threads about them…
I will say, if you have a low pain tolerance or heavy/painful periods currently, don’t do it. It does hurt a bit and I got significantly heavier (it’s lessened some now) periods and cramping (which I didn’t really get at all before) but it’s completely worth it to me. I can handle ibuprofen and heat pads a couple days a month if it means zero worries about pregnancy and hormonal side effects the rest of the time.