Freaking out about childcare after maternity leave…

posted 2 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
1302 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

i’m currently in grad school studying infant development, and from what i’ve observed, babies who are put into daycare early (around 2 months) often have higher levels of social development which is AWESOME for when they go to preschool and up. don’t worry. i know it’s hard and expensive to raise a family, but you gotta do what you gotta do. i think as long as you find a reputable daycare, you’ll feel safe with them caring for your newborn. check out their credentials, and see how they operate their business. it should be warm and inviting, and ask around parents. good luck, and congrats on being a mommy!!! ^___^  

Post # 3
1107 posts
Bumble bee

I’m sorry you’re worried about childcare but I think it’s smart that you’re thinking about it this early on. Have you considered looking at or other nanny-finding sites where you might be able to find and hire an individual caregiver that you trust?

Post # 6
378 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

do you know (or know anyone that knows) a stay at home mom who might be willing to care for your child as well (for a fee)?  That might make the financial aspect less and their children will get to have friends as well.  just obviously be carefull if you don’t know her personally and do a background check all that jazz.

Post # 7
8483 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Do you know how much the daycare centers are charging for infants?  Around here it is $1200-1300 a month but it’s still often cheaper than a nanny or even nanny sharing.  Most kids do just fine in daycare, I’ve toured some that seem like they do a great job.  Read reviews!

Post # 8
5460 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

We have an in-home babysitter (DD goes to her house) and she has been going there since 8 weeks old.  She isn’t a licensed center though, so if you were to search a website for licensed in-home providers you’d never find her.  I agree with PP’s suggestion to ask around, maybe there are other moms in your area or at work who could make a suggestion for a particular place?

Post # 9
11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

lazybee123:  It’s never too early to start looking for childcare for an infant!

If you’re 8 weeks, that means your baby is probably due aroud March?  12 weeks puts you back at work in June, which is the perfect time to find a college student!  My DD was born in February and I started work in June. I used and found an AWESOME college student to watch her in my home until she goes to a home daycare in August. Many of the sitters charge much more than we were able to afford. We really got lucky, in that I told her my budget and she was willing to work with it. You could also point out to people if you are paying under the table that it makes a big difference!

Even if there aren’t licensed home daycares near you, there could be people offering daycare out of their home still, which isn’t necessarily a bad option if you do your research and have them background checked.  I would look for these on local community boards, craigslist, newspaper ads, etc.  

Honestly, as awful as it sounds to send your baby to daycare, it really isn’t that bad when it comes down to it.  It’s really nice to have a break and some time away to miss your LO.  You definitely appreciate the time you have together.  Are you able to adjust your schedule to work 3 or 4 days a week instead of full time? That could save some money in childcare costs and also strike a nice balance for you between working and staying home.

Post # 10
168 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I make 90% of our household income, so being a SAHM is totally not in the cards for me. On the flip side of that, there’s no way DH And I can afford FT infant care…it ranges about $2K a month in our city! So we’ve decided that I’m going to work from home one day a week, and DH will work from home two days a week…the other two days, we’ll probably do an in-home nanny. I know that seems luxurious but having someone in our home for two days will end up costing about half what daycare will cost…at least while baby is an infant. I would definitely check with your employer to see if some sort of telecommute option (work-from-home, etc.) may be available.

You’ll find something wonderful, I’m sure! I think the key is just being flexible.

Post # 11
1802 posts
Buzzing bee

As a PP suggested you may be able to find a college student to watch your baby for the summer. if you have a college nearby you could probably email the dean of the education dept. and find someone who wants experience and a reference. If you know anyone nearby you could split the cost of the nanny with them. 

As a nanny myself I see many benefits of having your baby in daycare. There is so much socialization and constant opportunities for learning. Sometimes even with a nanny it’s hard because most parents expect us to clean while we are in their homes. Also, I love taking my charges out to socialize, but if the weather is bad or something that means we are stuck inside with no other kids to play with. I love my job, and there are certainly upsides to having a nanny, but I will definitely enroll my kids in a daycare!

Another major factor to consider is what you can afford. You really have to be honest with yourself on this one, and if you can’t afford a nanny you can’t afford one, and that is okay. I hate when I find people on that want to pay $2/hour for the “best nanny ever!” I think it is like everything else, you get what you pay for. If you choose to only pay the bare minimum you will just get a warm body to watch your baby rather than someone who is truly invested. I think the only exception is hiring the college student for a summer. many education majors would be thrilled to work for minimum wage for the experience, and they are also typically passionate about what they are doing!

Post # 12
6048 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

I had to find last minute day care for my year old niece, when we got custody of her.  We yanked her out of at home daycare because she got sores from her diaper not being changed enough and she seemed to regress, found out that she was in her car seat most of the day watching Judge shows during the day.   The “chain” daycare in our area did full time day care, preschool and  were credited for kindergarten, so she had the same kids with her for a few years.  They all still spend summers together.  She learned so much so quickly because they employ actual teachers.  It cost about half my pay check, but I didn’t worry and she wasn’t sick as much. 


A girl I work with just came back from her 6 weeks of mat. leave, she’s paying 600 a month for daycare for her newborn.  It’s right around the corner from our work, she went today to BF the baby.  They have a $5.00 a minute layfee for picking up your kids, it’s a chain but the baby can stay there through kindergarten.  

Post # 13
1446 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Daycare in my area is crazy expensive too…. many centers are $2000-2500/month for infant care.  But, there is obviously a range.  And, they are the most expensive for infants, but they are only infants for a limited time, and it gets less $$$ after that.  I would do some research into prices and centers in your area and see what things look like… probably better than wondering about it, you know?

We are TTC soon and it’s definitely scary to hear friends talk about daycare costs… but what can you do?  I will be taking 12 weeks, unpaid besides any vaca/sick time I can save.  Ugh.

Does your employer or your husband’s have an Employee Assistance Program?  They can research daycare for you… may be a good place to start.  I don’t know how comprehensive they would be (ie just big centers or other options) but might be good to check out.

Post # 14
1891 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

If you cannot find anyone in the newspaper or Craigslist, where you could put up a request ad (yes there are reputable people there as my current sitter who has a legitamite business that she pays taxes on) then have you considered becoming a sitter yourself? I have a friend who did this and she loves it. She gets to stay home with her daughter, and she watches just a few others it is also lucrative depending on a number of things. I would do it, but I don’t have as much for kids who never behave, haha! Anyway, good luck and let us know what you come up with?

Post # 15
644 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Childcare is a HUGE expense wherever you are and unfortunately no one else can tell you what to do. I started researching prior to getting pregnant, thought we had a great place but we ended up pulling her after only 2 weeks and then had to scramble to figure something. We ended up hiring a nanny. She is more expensive but we make it work. The only thing I can offer is that yes it will be crazy expensive but you will figure it out. If someone had told me that we’d be paying what we’re paying now prior to her arrival I would have fainted but it is so much easier to pay more and have the peace of mind to know she’s being well cared for when I can’t be there.

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