(Closed) Freaking out about guest list

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

If you’re inviting 320 people, I think there is no way you’ll get 310 yes replies.  In a group of people that large, at least 10%  will inevitably have conflicts. I would go ahead and invite all of them.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would say it would be REALLY unlikely that 300+ people would all be able to attend. I think you will be fine with inviting those extras.

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I think for only 12-15 extras you’re safe to invite over your limit. The chances of everyone accepting are extremely slim. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

You’re fine inviting them, not everyone can make it. We’re inviting 30+ people over the capacity. 

Post # 9
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5007 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Agreed, if you invite 320 people you’re likely to get around 250. If all you’re worried about is space, you can invite them.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

My venue seats 180 and I am inviting 235. My cooridinator didn’t bat an eye when I told her our number. You’ll be fine. If your FI forgot about his cousins then they aren’t close enough that they will all come. Not everyone will use their plus one.Trust me, you’ll be fine.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Invite them. You’ll have some people decline day of too… 

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I wouldn’t be too worried about going over but I would take some steps to “accidentially” reduce the invite number/make more room.

First, just address the envelopes to “and family” and let cousins under 21 or so be “kids” and pretend you just didn’t know their age. I would ignore the plus-1 rule for these guys b/c it is an easy enough thing to play dumb with, especially if there are lots of cousins. 

Second, you can always squeeze an extra seat in to tables if the kids are young. I would try to do this before adding more tables since you are so close to capacity it will free up some walking room. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Unless they all live nearby, I think you’re fine inviting the extra 12-15 people. Odds are pretty low that they’ll all be able to make it, along with every single other person you invited. My mom has 7 brothers and sisters, and a decent amount of the siblings/cousins rarely travel to family weddings. (At my cousin’s recent wedding, two siblings and like 8 cousins weren’t there. We’re not all super close and for the younger adults especially, it’s just too expensive to travel to every family wedding.) 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@MrsBeck:  I agree, add them, and know that not everyone will come and you will be fine on space

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@geekspice:  Agree.

Or eliminate plus ones for those who are not in relationships … That should cut out a few.

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