Post # 1
I quit my job today!!!! Let me explain that I HATED it and it was making me a miserable, unhappy person. I worked 55 hours a week and never had the time or energy to spend quality time with my FH or family. While I feel relieved, I am also panicky! My FH makes about what I made, so our income has halved. I hope to have another job in a month or so, even if its just part-time. But, we still have the prospect of paying for our wedding on at least 25% less income.
Is anyone else in a situation where their whole wedding was planned in one financial situation, all to be turned on its head?? We already have a venue booked, and I bought a dress. But other than that we haven’t paid for anything. Does anyone have any suggestions for places that are good to trim the budget with out sacrificing the wedding itself?
Argh!! I feel so irresponsible, but also so liberated!! I was in a job that I had no passion for. I feel like I am turning a new leaf! I feel excited about life again!! But, I know that my FH is worried about money and really feeling the pressure on himself now 🙁
Post # 3
I’ve never quit a job without having another one already lined up, interviewed for and locked down! I can’t imagine just quitting – how scary! It sucks to feel no passion for what you do all day. Feels like a waste of our time, life, sanity…..you get it! I hope you find something else in the field that you want soon! Good luck to you 🙂
Post # 4
Some of the high cost items (minus the food/drink, since I’m guessing are done by the venue) that you can cut – photography and flowers. I’d search craigslist for a photographer. I’ve found that photo costs seem to be the most broadly priced. In RI I’ve found one for $100/hr and $7k/day. You really can get a good (if not popular) photographer for $1,000 if you look. Flowers – I suggest looking for online wholesalers, buying vases and a roll of ribon and voila. A super pain to do right before the wedding, but that can also save you $1,000+.
Post # 5
I am in the same position as far as work goes. I hate going in there every day because I can’t stand what I do, its just boring and, well, not me. I realized how bad it was when my husband and I were talking about how quickly time passes and I mentioned that I think for me, it is partially because I am always looking forward to Friday afternoon because I am done with work for a couple of days. I wish I could just up and quit. But with 2 kids, a mortgage and a life to maintain its just not possible, I get paid well and it would be extremely hard to find another job that pays what this one does. Probably because its so boring.
Post # 6
I am still feeling very anxious about the whole thing, but I feel like I need to make this move now! We don’t have any children yet, or a mortgage. Other then the wedding, we have the lowest life costs we will probably ever have again. So, I feel like if I don’t take advantage of this time to find my self professionally, I will end up two years down the line feeling very trapped and super unhappy in my work/ financial situation.
I am looking at really cutting flowers,as they are not big for me. Also, pairing down the catering menu and trimming the guest list (we were about to send STD’s) from over 200 to around 140.
Also, hopefuly we can find a photographer for around $2000 which is less than we originally budgeted.
My FH is very supportive. He loves his job, so he understands how hard it is for me. But, he is going to expect me to start somewhere at least PT very soon, so I am bringing in at least some money until I find something more permanent.
Post # 7
@Stiz:If he could handle the househld expenses and you could focus on the wedding that would be great. Also you may consider having your wedding during the day and serving appetizers instead of a sit down dinner. Maybe scratch the open bar and only serve bubbly for the toast. Small changes like this would not be noticed by the guests.
Post # 8
My husband hates his job and I’d be really stressed out if he left me as the sole financial providor so I hope you can work it out and get a new job soon!
Post # 9
i hope you get a new job soon…that’s a pretty major pay cut. as for your wedding, definitely cut down on flowers, guest list, photographer, band/dj (use an ipod), and get cheap invitations.
Post # 10
I feel like I’m in the same boat as you. I also did this in October (quit my job, I mean). After four years, I had enough of being totally unhappy and grumpy and one day I had enough and turned in my notice. Now, I’m still in college until June and receive refund checks every quarter that help me pay my major bills (car, rent, insurance)…until June. After that, I’ve got NO idea how I’m going to pay bills for the summer and contribute for the wedding! My FI and I just had a discussion about this tonight. Luckly, we’ve already paid for 3/4ths of our wedding and only have the music, food and honeymoon left. In total, we will pay around $6,000 for our entire wedding and honeymoon.
But I’m still freaking out. I just filed for unemployment benefits because after almost 2 months of applying for jobs around the small town I live in, I haven’t had one single phone call. Hopefully, it will help things calm down until I can graduate and start applying for teaching positions in June/July.