Post # 1
We found an incredibly perfect place to host our wedding weekend. It’s an overnight camp with modern, well-appointed lodges with private rooms and private bathrooms. We have activities and meals for the guests from Friday evening until Sunday noon. It’s beautiful and serene and everything we wanted in a venue.
We chose this format largely because all of our guests are out of town. We really wanted to spend time with our friends who we don’t get to see often enough. We also both live quite far from our extended families, and we get along well even though we’re not super close. Both sets of parents see the wedding as a family reunion, which I think is great. This also gives us a chance to control the costs for guests, since meals and activities are being covered by us.
And now it’s time to sign the contract, and I’m terrified. What if our families think it’s lame and don’t want to participate? What if the lodging is too expensive? I keep having nightmares were like 4 people show up and we end up having to pay for all of the rooms ourselves.
Logically, I know that all of the weddings on FI’s side have been DW or wedding weekends, so his family will be familiar with the format. We’ve only had one on my side, and my parents were the only non-locals so my family is a wild card. And obviously the guests aren’t obligated to stay in our accomodations, plus the rooms sleep up to 6, so cost-conscious guests can bunk together.
Ugh. I just feel like such a brat for having a wedding at all.
Post # 3
Can I come to your wedding? That sounds so fun! In the end the people that love and care about you and your FI will be there, no matter what. I am having a DW and had the same fears in the beginning. We sent the invites out and then I watched as all the yes’s came in. Go for it!
Post # 4
@jdhall89: That sounds like a great plan! I can understand your worries about booking, but I think if you give everyone enough notice and heads up of your plans, you’ll have people make sure they are available for the weekend and participate in all the great things you have planned.
Post # 5
@jdhall89: What?! Dear this sounds like the perfect venue! I think the jitters are normal but this really does sound great 🙂
Post # 6
Thanks for the reassurance 🙂 I just need to sign the damn thing…
Post # 7
@jdhall89: I don’t know why you’re scared.. this type of wedding sounds fun to me!! I love family reunions and a chance to just have fun all weekend long.. no responsibilities or anything. I think your guests will appreciate this weekend, and if they really don’t want to stay in a lodge they will stay in a hotel nearby. It’s nothing to get too worried about I don’t think!
Post # 8
It sounds great! Every overnight wedding I’ve been to has been a hit! Is there a minimum number of rooms you have to fill? We had one house on our property for our guests & only told our bridal party. We had more people want to stay than beds available. We even had one person back out last minute & two drunk people took the spots!
It’s a little scarry to expect people to stay, but you’re taking a lot of the work from them, they’ll be happy to just stay put & not have to research other places to stay.
Post # 9
As long as there are options for people in different price ranges (like splitting rooms) it should be fine. And it sounds fun! If there are some guests who just CAN’T afford it at all, are you in a position to help them?
Post # 10
- Wedding: June 2014 - Twin Oaks Garden House
OOooh do they have a website! I would love to see it. I think thats great! DO you have to have a min. amount of people to cover at this place??? Or is it a set amount? Can people cancel and you not get charged??
Post # 11
@jdhall89: Go for it and remember to post pictures later! I would love to see this place!