Freaking out about planning the wedding

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
1234 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@butterfliesandhoney:  First and foremost, you have to make a sound decision on whether or not you want to get married to this man.

If the answer is yes, few thoughts:

– This is totally normal, I had many, MANY, of these thoughts during the whole planning process. Just remember, if your decision is to indeed marry this man, you might need to remind yourself of that a few times when these big commitments (way more to come) and decisions come more and more.

– If you need more time to get used to all of this, you could opt for a longer engagement (just throwing that out there, you are so early in the planning process).

– If you are already getting nervous about the possible huge crowd at your wedding, I would agree that keeping it small is a good idea. DH and I were very nervous about that too, so we aimed for 40-50 people. The list somehow grew to 70 and that freaked me right out (it added unecessary feelings or worry and stress). Thankfully, some people declined and we ended up with around 50 :).

– It won’t be like in the movies (I wish!), but obviously you know that. But you find ways to give the moments special meaning, like your own life movie ;-), that’s what it feels like when you think back on your own life, right? 

– Finally, getting married doesn’t mean you are losing your independance. In fact, you can still be an independant woman, the only difference, is that you’ll have a first mate with you on your journey  ;-).

– It’s not too late until you say I do and sign the papers. Losing deposits wouldn’t be the end of the world (like marrying the wrong man, let’s say). But if you have a huge gut feeling that this is wrong, you might want to consider that feeling…

I wasn’t 100% sure (who is? no offense to all the sure bride out there), but I was close enough to leap faithfully into this with him. 

Hope this helped love, and good luck!

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