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It's a lot of money that your spending! I always freak out when making big purchases. My husband and I just bought a new computer over the weekend and I was like, "Yikes...there goes $1,000 just like that!" Meanwhile, we're in search of a house, so I can't imagine writing the check for the downpayment. That is going to be crazy.
So I completely understand. You found a great deal with your photographer though! My guy also started with me at 7:30 when I was getting ready and was the last to leave with me and my hubby at the end of the night. You don't usually find that very often, so when you do, gobble it up and brag to all of your friends about how great he is!!! Just breathe into a paper bag as you're writing the check 
It is always a nervous feeling when you get past the $1000 threshold for any product or service. But from the sound of your post, you found a phenomenal photographer! So now just relax that you found one of the most important vendors already!
Thanks TedNghiem and mileysock! Breathe in, breathe out. I'm such a perfectionist and pretty much a nit-pick...I just want everything to be perfect! And $ is always such a stressful topic!
KB – I am right there with you. I’m 7 months into planning so I’ve calmed down a bit, but each time I’ve made a deposit I have felt like I could throw up. My Fi and I are paying for the wedding so every last penny being spent is painful as our money is very precious to us. We work hard and have been saving hard… and we’re constantly in fear of me losing my job since I work in an auto related industry. It’s very scary.
The one “investment” that really had me freaking out was hiring our wedding film makers. Initially I never wanted video because I wasn’t really into traditional wedding videography. Then I saw wedding cinematic filmmakers on all these wedding blogs. Fell in love. Next thing you know I’m calling the top filmmakers in our area to film our wedding. Not only did this add to our budget, but it was a splurge. Almost a third of our overall budget. Yes, I’m crazy and my Fi is crazy to not tell me “no”. Just like your photographer, these guys are everything I could ask for in a vendor. But despite this being something I really want, I also have a lot of reservations and doubts. I hope and pray that I made the right decision. I hope and pray that they are great to work with on my wedding day. I hope and pray the end result of our movie trailer and dvd brings me to tears each time I watch it. I really, really don’t want to look back in regret
Forking over hundreds and thousands of dollars is a big deal. But this is it. It’s our one big day to spend a little extra money. I keep reminding myself that things always have a funny way of working out. I also ask myself – in 5 years will I still feel the pain of spending so much money? In 10? In 20? Probably not. But I will have great memories and they will be captured forever in photos and video.
I think your freak out is completely normal. You are definitely not alone. I’m finally starting to get excited for the wedding and I’m also looking forward to relax and go back to my normal life…wedding planning is a beast. Good luck!
It is so scary, but when I was searching for my photographer, I met some really crazy ones that made me feel sick to think about paying them. So when I found the one!, I was so happy to put a down payment on him. I'm so excited to work with him that day, and the money is a lot granted but I feel so much better knowing it's someone who is extremly professional.
You could also post who you hired on the local boards and see if anyone else has hired them, that might reassure you!
Miss Pizza - Oh wow - yeah, I haven't even considered a videographer at this point...I hope that yours works out - it sounds very very cool! I hope you'll post something about it once the day comes around! And that is so true, a few years down the road we won't be worrying about what money we spent...its worth it to have the memories on record for years to come. I just hate money! Grrrr!
Br1tSh1ningStar - good idea, thanks! I'll have to look around if anyone else has used him. Thankfully, I'm not leery of his work, but I just get an ulcer at the thought of all these deposits I'm about to lay down...YUCK!
as a photographer, this business is all about good word of mouth....
looking at websites doesnt give you a clue as to whether the person is friendly, easy to work with, punctual, etc....you only gain this information either by yourself, or finding people who have used him in the past!
Darren - Thanks so much for the input! I was adamant that I get to meet him in person before I would commit to anything. Although, yes, it will be useful to get input from another couple's experiences.
@TedNghiem - we met last weekend...so that part is already out of the way. The FI and I got along with him really well, so that quelled my fears...plus he and I communicate via Twitter and email quite a bit.
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Ok, so I'm wondering if anyone else out there shares (or shared) my fears!
So I've been searching for a photog for a few months now, and I have finally decided on one! I'm in love with his work, I met him in person last week, and he is very willing to be flexible with me. 1 - my venue won't let me book until 9 months out (STRESS!), so I won't be absolutely sure of the date until the end of August. 2 - I'm moving in 3 weeks and the FI and I weren't sure if we'd be able to commit to a photographer beforehand (because of the venue issue)...but he is willing to change the contract to refund me all of my money (with the exception of the cost of the engagement shoot) if my date has to be moved and he is somehow booked. So, we are going to schedule the engagement shoot for the end of this month, which is absolutely great in my mind!
My only thing is that I'm just freaking out about committing to such a big investment! I know its the right person, and I know that from shopping around his prices are right on track with the others (plus he doesn't give me a time limit...he will come over to where I am first thing in the morning when I wake up if I want him to, and will stay until the last guest leaves...he's the only photog I found who would do that for me...). Its not that I'm unsure whatsoever about him, I'm just freaking out because its the first big deposit we're putting down on something! I didn't even flinch when I paid the deposit on my dress (which wasn't cheap...I should have been having a heart attack)...why am I freaking out now?
Anyone else have the same type of anxiety over booking vendors?