Post # 1
Hive I’m asking for some opinions on a Friday in September wedding. We were thinking 3:00pm but we failed to think about anyone who has kids in school or that people probably planned on working and coming after work. Should we attempt to stick to the 3:00 and just hope that if people don’t come to the ceremony they’ll come to the reception? Or should we move it back to 5:00pm?
We don’t want to start any later than 5:00 so that we will hopefully have enough sunlight for pictures afterwards.
What do you think?
Here’s how I’m thinking the timeline should look like:
3:00:00 Arrive at Church
4:30:00 Begin Seating
5:00:00 Ceremony Begins
5:30:00 Ceremony Ends
5:45:00 Receiving Line
6:00:00 Pictures at the church
6:30:00 Pictures in the town
7:30:00 Wedding party arrive at reception?
8:30:00 Dinner is served?
9:15:00 First Dance/Father Daughter/Mother Son
9:30:00 Dancing Begins
10:00:00 Cut the cake
Post # 3
I would move it back to five. I think at five people might be able to swing it and leave work a little early. But at three, they would have to leave even earlier to go get ready and miss a whole work day. I think at 5 if they left work a few hours early they would be able to make it. Again this is assuming most of your guest work a a 9-5 and weren’t taking a a day off from work.
Post # 4
I’d move to 5pm unless you know people won’t have issues. 3pm would really mess me up. I’d probably have to take the entire day off work depending on where the wedding was located. (something I wouldn’t do for everyone).
Post # 5
I am getting married on a Friday night at 8:00. I know most people will not be home from work until after 5 and then they will still need to get ready. I would make it for the latest possible time available.
Post # 6
According to your schedule, the ceremony doesn’t start until 5 already? That looks good to me!
I’m getting married on a Friday at 3pm. But, I gave a years notice so I’m hoping people have already made arrangements with work (if possible). Or I’ll have to hope they can make it to the reception at least 🙂
Post # 7
@jema: I didn’t even notice that!
OP – If the actual ceremony start time isn’t until 5 I think you’re ok.
Post # 8
i’m having a friday wedding too! i have thought a lot about this and i think we are going with 5. if we go with a church service we may not be able to go any later than 4 though… if you can swing 5, it might be better for the reasons you stated above.
i’ll be interested in what people have to say though!
Post # 9
If you’re arriving at the church at 3, can you do pictures before the ceremony? Or take your in-town pictures before going to the church? You’d get the sunlight, but you also wouldn’t have a full 2 hour gap between your ceremony and your arrival at the reception.
I definitely would not start the wedding earlier than 5pm. For me, it would involve taking time off work, and I sometimes have a hard time getting time off given the nature of my office. If I couldn’t make it to the ceremony, I’d likely not go to the reception either, because I’d feel weird about showing up after the ceremony, since that’s the important part of the wedding (but that’s just my own personal opinion!).
Post # 10
I updated my schedule to see how it would look at 5 as opposed to 3. I’m worried that having dinner at 8 is too late but if we move it up then we won’t have enough time for pictures after the ceremony….
Post # 11
@MrsRose: I’m a little confused. The schedule has dinner being served at 8:30… if the ceremony ends at 5:30, are you having a three hour cocktail hour??
Post # 12
@abbie017: WE aren’t really even having a cocktail hour. The problem is we don’t want to see each other before the ceremony so that time is for pictures. We don’t want to be rushed for pictures but we don’t want dinner to be served that late. This is why I obviously am needing help with this.
Post # 13
Definitely push it back to 5. We started our Friday ceremony at 5:30 and had no issues with sunlight (married in early October so day light should be about the same for you, if not better). It didn’t start getting dark until well after 7pm.
I’ve been to Friday weddings that started during the afternoon and the turnout was poor. Asking guests to leave work an hour or so early to catch the 5pm ceremony is one thing (and no one should have any issue with that as long as they have adequate notice) but having a 3pm ceremony pretty much mean that your guests who work are taking a half day. You may run into some issues there.
As for dinner, our reception started at 7 and dinner was served around 7:30. If you’re planning on dinner being served at 8 I don’t think it would be too late.
Post # 14
were having a friday wedding as well and our ceremony will take place at 3pm. Its still our wedding day and even though its a friday, we dont want to cut it short. If people cant make it, all that matters is us and our closest family/friends that we know will be there. Our schedule is set to go like this-
2:00pm arrive at ceremony site (were having it outdoors)
3:00pm ceremony begins
3:30 ceremony ends.
(will most likely mingle till 4)
5:30 cocktail hour to start at reception (which is 20 minutes away from ceremony site)
6:30 introduction for the bridal party & first dance
6:45 cut the cake
7:00 dinner to be served & cake
8:15 father daughter dance/mother son
8:30 dance the night away
Post # 15
@loveisallyouneed24: That scheduleing is pretty close to what I was thinking and why I wanted 3:00 but now I’m not so sure… We’re asking our aunts and uncles and cousins to see how they feel about the 3:00 ceremony before we decide to change anything.