Post # 1
I just found out that our ceremony will be at 2:30 on a Friday. I was under the impression that it could be later then that but I was informed incorrectly.
I am upset because I feel like people won’t come to the ceremony and we are only inviting 100 people. I know my friends got married on a Friday at 4:30 and the friends took off of work for the entire day to get ready and drive an hour to get there.
I am just panicing and worried that nobody will come. Would you go to the ceremony or just the reception?
Post # 3
If my job wasn’t flexible, I’d probably only be able to go to the reception. I mean, if I were a friend of yours, of course I would want to go to the ceremony, but that is really early. Is there just no possible way to get a later time?
Post # 4
I get off at noon on Fridays so sure. DH’s job is not flexible though so he wouldn’t come.
Post # 5
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
I think it’s pretty rude to only go to the reception if you can at all help it, so we’d probably take the day or half-day off if we wanted to attend. I’d be annoyed though, I have to admit.
I expect that this will affect your attendance. Is your wedding date correct, and is there any way to switch venues since it’s 1.5 years away?
Post # 6
depends on who you’re inviting and where they’re coming from. If they’re out of state or out of town even, they probably took the whole day off anyway. If they are in town, then it’s a bummer because they do probably have to take mroe time off. If people are super close to you, they will make it happen. But people who you’re not as close to might not be able to take as much time off work. Honestly though if it were me, it’d be just as hard to get to a 2:30 wedding as a 4:30 since either way it’s at least part of my afternoon.
Post # 7
thats a tough one…. i agree its a bit rude to go to the reception only, so i would make the effort to be there, as long as work would allow it. at first i thought, would i take a day off for that- but, ive taken a WEEK off for other peoples (destination) weddings! i guess it would depend on my work situation and how close i am to the couple. i would expect it to affect some of your guests ability to attend sadly 🙁 just focus on the good and be happy to celebrate with them at the reception! dont let it ruin the day for you.
Post # 8
@ecrowe1218: Sorry, but I won’t be willing to miss half a days pay to go to someone elses wedding. Unfortunately, that is what happens when you have a wedding on a weekday during work hours.
Some guest will be willing/able to take off work, and others won’t or can’t.
Post # 9
@ecrowe1218: I would try but there would be no guarentee…My SO would not be able to come though
Post # 10
If you were a very close friend or family member (I mean immediate or a cousin), I would take a half day or the entire day off. Otherwise I wouldnt attend.
Post # 11
I would not attend the wedding unless it was a very close family member or friend. I’d have to take off the entire day to make a 2:30 ceremony.
Post # 12
I have attended a few Friday weddings at 5:00 where ceremony attendance is noticeably smaller than those that attended the cocktail hour and reception (usually around 7ish.)
Not having everyone attend your ceremony is the price you pay for having a Friday wedding.
Post # 13
The cchurch said 230 is the latest. We are only inviting aunts, uncles, 1st cousins and close friends. I told my FI that I want to change it to Saturday but we are saving $1000’s by having it on a Friday
Post # 14
I could go, but DH probably couldn’t… So we would probably wind up being reception-only guests!
Post # 15
Me personally… ya I’d come, but then I LOVE Weddings
And I have a flex job.
Anyone else, and I am thinking you are going to have a mighty small audience
If I was you, I’d change something
It seems ridiculous to have a teeny tiny Wedding and a BIG Reception unless that is intentionally what you wanted to do all along (intimate Ceremony)
Hope this helps,
Post # 16
I’d have to be really close to the couple…I’m not a fan of weddings, honestly.