Post # 1
I never imagined having anything but a Saturday evening wedding but then reality set in and I realized that due to budget and guest counts, that’s just not going to happen so we ended up having to book a Friday. I was in a Friday evening wedding last October and found it to be quite the inconvenience. Not only did I have to take the entire day on Friday off from work but also half of the day on Thursday. I guess I’m feeling a little guilty asking my BP to do that though there’s really no way around it. I’m also concerned that out of the 82 people that we are inviting, only a fraction will come since it is a Friday. We opted to have our ceremony later in the day (5:30) to hopefully accommodate those that will be working but I worry that its still not enough. Are there any other Friday evening bees out there? How many of your invited guests made it to your wedding? Did anyone complain about it?
Post # 3
There are a TON of friday bees on here. I am getting married on a friday but my reception is on a saturday. Personally I like friday weddings because you still have your whole weekend left!
Post # 4
I had a Friday wedding 30 years ago (6pm)and everyone came. My daughter had her Fri. evening wedding in May(5pm) and only 10 people couldn’t come, but it was for reasons other than the day itself. I think that no matter when it is or where it is, the people who want to be there, will be. No worries!
Post # 5
I think that it’s totally fine to do a wedding on Friday. As far as the guest list goes, you may experience a few more declines, but what’s really going to make the difference is how many of your guests are OOT–it’s more difficult to fly in for a friday wedding than a Saturday wedding, so if a lot of your guests or flying (or doing a long drive), then expect a more intimate day.
As far as your BP goes, I think that it’s good to sort of explain the situation and then to be flexible as far as your day-of plans go. I would offer but not demand that everyone be there at 2pm to get hair and make-up and be understanding if one of your BMs comes to you and says she’ll be at the wedding, but might not be able to do the whole “getting ready” stuff because she’s gotta work or something. Chances are, your BMs WILL take off work and be happy to do so, but just cut them a little slack.
Post # 6
We’re also doing a Friday early evening (4pm) wedding. We’re doing it that early incase we need some photos outdoors after (trying to get them done pre-ceremony) so we have enough light as daylight savings is the next weekend.
We have 128 guests attending our wedding on a Friday. And yes, I know it’s an inconvenience for some, but what can you do. Unfortunately, you can’t please everyone.
Truth be told, I feel more guilty about our 5pm rehearsal the night before because where our venue is located, the main highway to get there is a PITA during rush hour. So, that’s what I’m more concerned with.
Post # 7
I am having the same dilemma, but I am opting to have my wedding at 7pm. I am considering doing 730pm simply because we are downtown and traffic in and out of there during rush hour is murder… and I don’t want too many people to miss the ceremony. I also don’t want to miss photo ops.. the sun sets around 8:30pm on my wedding day so I want to make sure that I have plenty of time for photos
Post # 8
I’v attended a wedding on friday in NJ (I work in NYC) with no issues. I later start time like 7pm is prefered cause that allows people to get their from work, rather than having to ask for time off. Go for it.
Post # 9
Ours is going to be on a Friday. I had originally wanted 6PM but my mother is pushing for 7 or 7:30… I was concerned about daylight and since my wedding and reception are about a 20 minute drive from each other I didn’t want it to be 9 or 10 when Mr. Nigh and I finally got to the reception. I agree with the previous posts about the people who want to be there will be. That’s how I feel also. Good luck!
Post # 10
@ENIGHILATOR: Friday night here too!!! Church will probably be around 4:30 or slightly later if they allow for it- still checking into that :o) and the cocktail hour will start at 7pm to allow for people to not have to rush to much after work/ getting ready. I have a feeling that the church won’t have everyone, but I’m hoping for the majority to come :o) We are running our reception until 12:30, so even if someone can’t make it out until 8 or so, they can still party the night away with us! We are so looking forward to it and I feel like we still have Saturday for our morning brunch with our guests and then off we go :oD
Post # 11
We have been given two dates for our wedding by the venue, a Friday and a Saturday. The Friday date is saving us a considerable amount of money so we are leaning toward that date. I know that means that relatives (all of which are coming from out of town) will have to take a day off to get there, but we only plan to get married once and we’ll never ask it of them again.
Post # 12
I should add that we plan to start the ceremony at 6:30 or 7 to allow plenty of time for people to arrive and check-in to the inn.
Post # 13
I have been a part of 2 Friday evening weddings. It is usually a significant savings for the venue, DJ and sometimes even the cake. The first Friday wedding there were a few guests late to the ceremony because of Baltimore traffic. That could have just as easily happened on a Saturday though.
I say go for the Friday wedding. Friday and Sunday weddings are becoming much more popular.
Post # 14
I know it’s not the same, but I’m doing a Sunday evening wedding with the knowledge that all our guests will have to miss work Monday. It’s destination though, so if we did it on Saturday, people would probably skip work Friday to be able to get there at a decent hour. (And obviously Friday was out, because then people would need to miss two days.) As bad as I feel about people using vacation days, almost all our guests are either older or have very flexible work situations. And at the end of the day, it was our best option. I think yours will be fine, especially if most of the guests are local.
Post # 15
I’ve attended two Friday weddings. At one, hardly anyone came to the ceremony, but it was at 1:30pm. The reception was well attended. The other was an evening wedding, and both the ceremony and reception were well-attended. Both were very difficult for me as a guest (since it was hard to get time off work), but it was definitely nice to have the entire weekend after!
Post # 16
Mine will be a Friday night, ceremony probably around 730 or so. I don’t think it matters what day a wedding is, a day off of work isn’t the end of the world for most people. If attendance is an issue for us, it will be because of all the out-of-town invites, not the day of the week. If it were me, I’d go to a wedding on a Wednesday, if that was the day they picked. It’s a special occasion.