If it's just dessert only, or a Sunday brunch without dinner or alcohol, I would suggest Sunday. Friday weddings can be dificult to get to, and sometimes forces people to take off work.
Hmm...I think it would depend on if people have to travel. If they do, then Sunday afternoon would probably be my pick (as a guest) b/c you can still catch a Sunday night flight and not have to take time off work.
On the other hand, Friday night lets you and your guests continue the celebration elsewhere when the reception is over -- a bar or restaurant or back at the hotel -- which gives everyone more time to hang out (especially nice if you have college friends coming in from all over or something).
If you're serving alcohol, keep in mind that people are more likely to drink on a Friday night, and dessert-only might not provide enough food in their stomachs to soak up the alcohol (read: out-of-control wedding guests!)
Ok, honestly, I would rather do a dessert only wedding on a Friday if it was in town. I'm also going to be honest and say I probably wouldn't travel (plane flight, hotel, etc.) to a dessert only wedding no matter when it is. I would send a bigger gift though. :)
I think it depends on where your guests are coming from. If they're all in town, go with Friday so people can party in the evening after work. If most are out of town, go with Sunday so there's a chance they can get home afterwards without having to take a day off work at all.
FI's brother just had a Friday wedding (full meal reception), and it was kind of nice because the next day was still the weekend and out of town guests had the choice of travelling back then if they wanted to or just staying around for an extra day. FI and I are not comfortable with just offering dessert since 90% 0f his guests would be out of town. BUT if there are only a few people travelling far, by all means do Friday! If you do a dessert reception on a Friday maybe make it a little later in the evening. Good luck!
I love the dessert reception, but then again, that's what we did, so I guess I'm a little biased! :-) What we did though was note in the invitation that it was going to be a cookie buffet reception so that people would come having already eaten. Also, if I'm close enough with the bride/groom to come a long way for a wedding, my plans are going to be already set long before I knew if dinner is being served or not. I'd totally fly for a dessert only reception.
Now as far as the Friday/Sunday thing, I agree that it depends on if I'm traveling or not. If I'm driving, I'd rather it be Friday so that I have the rest of the weekend ahead of me. If I'm flying, I'd prefer Sunday so that I can decide if I want to take time off or not.
As a bride, I'd think Sunday so that you can have the rehearsal on Saturday instead of Thursday. Also that way the bridal part doesn't have to take time off work for a Thursday rehearsal.
I'm sure it will be wonderful whatever you decide and those that are closest to you will do whatever necessary to be there! Good luck!
as a bride, i would prefer a sunday wedding since i wouldn't have to work on saturday, so that's one less day off i need to take. vacation days are a precious commodity!
as a guest, i would also prefer sunday afternoon, as long as it ended sufficiently early enough for me to get back home (whether it was a long drive or a plane ride).
Sunday, most likely. Rehearsals on Thursday or any other pre-wedding events would be hard for out-of-town participants with out taking time off work. As a guest, I'd prefer something earlier on Sunday so if I needed to drive home or catch a late flight out, I could (or just take Monday).
It would also be easier to be more inclusive on pre-wedding events (rehearsal/welcome dinner or informal gatherings) to get more time with traveling guests.
posted by missm
Busy bee: 784 posts 4 months ago
As a bride, I'd rather do Sunday - more time and more people available to help prior to the event. :)
As a GUEST, would you rather attend a dessert-only reception on a Friday evening or a Sunday afternoon?
As a BRIDE, which would you rather host?
TIA for any feedback...
posted by poandko Newbee: 5 posts 4 months agoIf it's just dessert only, or a Sunday brunch without dinner or alcohol, I would suggest Sunday. Friday weddings can be dificult to get to, and sometimes forces people to take off work.
posted by ginabean Worker bee: 64 posts 4 months agoHmm...I think it would depend on if people have to travel. If they do, then Sunday afternoon would probably be my pick (as a guest) b/c you can still catch a Sunday night flight and not have to take time off work.
On the other hand, Friday night lets you and your guests continue the celebration elsewhere when the reception is over -- a bar or restaurant or back at the hotel -- which gives everyone more time to hang out (especially nice if you have college friends coming in from all over or something).
If you're serving alcohol, keep in mind that people are more likely to drink on a Friday night, and dessert-only might not provide enough food in their stomachs to soak up the alcohol (read: out-of-control wedding guests!)
posted by DCbrideinATL Worker bee: 92 posts 4 months agoOk, honestly, I would rather do a dessert only wedding on a Friday if it was in town. I'm also going to be honest and say I probably wouldn't travel (plane flight, hotel, etc.) to a dessert only wedding no matter when it is. I would send a bigger gift though. :)
posted by KateMW Busy bee: 721 posts 4 months agoIf there is alcohol and dancing, Friday.
If I am travelling more than an hour or flying, Sunday.
If both, hard to say!!!
Also if you are having a rehearsal dinner, sunday is great so you can have a saturday RD....
posted by Janna19 Helper bee: 428 posts 4 months agoI think it depends on where your guests are coming from. If they're all in town, go with Friday so people can party in the evening after work. If most are out of town, go with Sunday so there's a chance they can get home afterwards without having to take a day off work at all.
posted by tanya2s Helper bee: 416 posts 4 months agoFI's brother just had a Friday wedding (full meal reception), and it was kind of nice because the next day was still the weekend and out of town guests had the choice of travelling back then if they wanted to or just staying around for an extra day. FI and I are not comfortable with just offering dessert since 90% 0f his guests would be out of town. BUT if there are only a few people travelling far, by all means do Friday! If you do a dessert reception on a Friday maybe make it a little later in the evening. Good luck!
posted by caribqueen Worker bee: 98 posts 4 months agoI love the dessert reception, but then again, that's what we did, so I guess I'm a little biased! :-) What we did though was note in the invitation that it was going to be a cookie buffet reception so that people would come having already eaten. Also, if I'm close enough with the bride/groom to come a long way for a wedding, my plans are going to be already set long before I knew if dinner is being served or not. I'd totally fly for a dessert only reception.
Now as far as the Friday/Sunday thing, I agree that it depends on if I'm traveling or not. If I'm driving, I'd rather it be Friday so that I have the rest of the weekend ahead of me. If I'm flying, I'd prefer Sunday so that I can decide if I want to take time off or not.
As a bride, I'd think Sunday so that you can have the rehearsal on Saturday instead of Thursday. Also that way the bridal part doesn't have to take time off work for a Thursday rehearsal.
I'm sure it will be wonderful whatever you decide and those that are closest to you will do whatever necessary to be there! Good luck!
posted by bonniebelle101 Helper bee: 361 posts 4 months agoas a bride, i would prefer a sunday wedding since i wouldn't have to work on saturday, so that's one less day off i need to take. vacation days are a precious commodity!
as a guest, i would also prefer sunday afternoon, as long as it ended sufficiently early enough for me to get back home (whether it was a long drive or a plane ride).
posted by emileee Worker bee: 199 posts 4 months agoI think I'd prefer Sunday in both cases.
posted by MsPopcorn Helper bee: 218 posts 4 months agoSunday, most likely. Rehearsals on Thursday or any other pre-wedding events would be hard for out-of-town participants with out taking time off work. As a guest, I'd prefer something earlier on Sunday so if I needed to drive home or catch a late flight out, I could (or just take Monday).
It would also be easier to be more inclusive on pre-wedding events (rehearsal/welcome dinner or informal gatherings) to get more time with traveling guests. posted by missm Busy bee: 784 posts 4 months agoAs a bride, I'd rather do Sunday - more time and more people available to help prior to the event. :)
posted by missm Busy bee: 784 posts 4 months ago