Post # 1
Hi- my fiancé and I are interested in planning a Friday night wedding with a church ceremony at 4-4:30 and the reception starting at 7pm. Does anyone have any experience with Friday night weddings? It’s so much cheaper and I love the fact of having the rest if the weekend to relax. Thanks
Post # 3
you may have less people attend… for me to attend a 4pm wedding I would have to take off 1/2 day from work, which means either working without pay or using vacation time. Plus on every other friday I have a status meeting that I absolutely cannot miss…. so if you scheduled it on that friday…. I wouldn’t be able to get there on time, no matter what our relationship.
I think Friday weddings are saying that you don’t care about the convenience of your guests. But that’s me. Plenty of people have their weddings on Fridays. Having said that…. I had mine on a Wednesday because of the date 12.12.12….. so I’m the last person to judge.
Post # 4
I had a friday wedding!
But we started at 6:30pm so people could still go to their 8/9am-5/6pm jobs if they were local and then make it to the wedding no problem.
Most people didn’t mind leaving early on a Friday or taking the day off in general but I really took care to schedule everything as convenient as possible.
I would book it if you like the affordability but don’t expect everyone to be able to attened the ceremony at 4pm. As long as you don’t mind some people just RSVPing to the reception or not at all, I would do it!
PS. I love Friday weddings! Friday is my favorite day of the week to let loose and I agree that people will love starting their weekend with your celebration!
Post # 5
We had originally planned for a Saturday wedding, but most venues in our area require a 100 guest minimum on Saturdays. Since FI and I want a smaller wedding (80 guests max), we’ve switched it to Friday. Our friends and family who are local loved the excuse to leave work a few hours early and also that they had the rest of their weekend free. Most of our family is from out of town though, and unfortunately will have to take time off whether our wedding is on a Friday or Saturday. If it’s important to you what your guests think, maybe mention it to a few friends and family to feel them out a bit. If not, it’s your day and I’m sure regardless of what day of the week you pick.. your closest friends and family will let nothing stop them from attending your big day! 🙂
Post # 6
I had a Friday wedding with my late hubby.All my friends and family took a days leave to attend. It was an amazing day xx Then all my kids were born on a Friday LOL…and I found out both my husband and I had been born a a Friday. Friday became special…:)
Post # 7
I think Friday weddings are great but I would suggest starting later so more people can come. Of course close family will miss work to come, but you will exclude a lot of people if you start at 4:30. You probably don’t need 3 hours between ceremony start and reception start (a ceremony usually only last 30-45 minutes). I personally would start the ceremony at 6:30, cocktail hour 7:15-8, start dinner at 8 and end the reception around 11. Or skip cocktail hour all together and start dinner at 7:15 ish.
Post # 8
- Wedding: June 2014 - Italiano's Humble
My mom did this. She started her ceremony at about 6:30, and made sure to mention it was a cake and punch reception. She did it at the church as well. She had about 35-40 people show up, out of about 60 invited. But, the day was special to them, as it was their anniversary. Being Friday, and them being part of a pool tournament and active in their league, etc, some guests couldn’t make it, but still, she was excited for her turn out, and their day.
FWIW, she lives in a small town in the Tx Hill Country, where Friday weddings aren’t a “regular” thing, BUT they aren’t uncommon. Most of our citizens work 8-5/9-5, and being most were 20 minutes away max from the ceremony, guests still had time to feed their families.
Also, I’d go more with an evening affair. It wasn’t in her budget to cater, but if it’s in yours, I’d do it more of a 6-ish time, with a full dinner, or do it after 8, with a cocktail/cake receptiom. As one PP mentioned, feel it out with your friends and family. They’re your best audience for this question, b/c they’ll know you and their lives better than we do.
Post # 9
I originally had a Saturday wedding March 2 but had to postpone it to May on a Friday. Unfortunately our venue was not available on a Saturday. I was pretty bummed about the situation becuase I didn’t want it to be an incovenience to all of our guest. Friday was pretty much our only option. After letting everyone know about the new date everyone was completely fine with taking Friday off. The people that truly want to be there and be a part of it will be there and take the day off. If not will just make it to the reception. As long as you give notice right away. I keep getting text from friends and family that they took friday off. I was nervous about our ceremony and finding a church that would marry us on a friday. But our priest was completely fine with marrying us on a friday. 🙂
Post # 10
I think most of your local guests would attend but the day may pose a problem for your OOT guests bc it would require them to take off at least Friday. DH and I have been to a couple of weddings held on Fridays. Usually, it’s not a big deal to attend as long as there’s able notification so we can request off work.
Post # 11
I’m getting married on a Friday for the same reason. We expect to have about 80-90 people. So far everyone is just working a half day and the out of towners are happy to have a 3 day weekend in Vegas 🙂
Post # 12
I’m getting married on a Friday, starts at 7pm. The venue that I wanted has a different policy on Saturdays and it costs almost double, cause you have to rent the whole place and I’m not using the whole place
I am worried about traffic though
Post # 13
I think Friday weddings are rather selfish and agree with the first poster. share ally shows a lack of caring about the convenience of your guests. If you have it on a Friday, people are going to have to take time off from work to come, especially out of town people. As someone who gets no ptime days off, missing a day from work means a lot less cash in my pocket. Add loss of income to ceditor a wedding gift, and that’s a kit if money.
Post # 14
I would definayely not start until at least 5:30, if a small town. I’m having a Sunday wedding, which is actually cheaper here than a Friday wedddijng, and more convenient in general. Most out of to owners are willing to take at least one day off, but I would not want to travel all morning to get there and then have a wedding right away, nor take two days if it was hard for me to do so at my job. 3 hours a is too long between. People get bored and it is really inconvenient
Post # 15
Thank you all for responding! I appreciate your suggestions. We did end up booking the Friday night but it was a price difference of 10k for the same wedding for a Saturday night . I am easing the frustration of finding parking in the city buy having valet service for my guest! The venue I have is out if this world with awesome food and we booked a band. Not only will it be our wedding night but for our guest it will be a nice night out! And honestly the important people will make the effort to be there! I am not worried about that! Plus our wedding is 18 months away and we are having an engagement party the end of this month. So I will make sure everyone will know our date and mAke proper arrangements!
Thanks again for All of your suggestions!! 🙂
Post # 16
- Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)
DH and I had a Friday wedding, and it was perfect! It got us a few deals, and none of our guests had to decline because our wedding was a Friday. Plus we all had the rest of the weekend. It was a very positive experience!