Post # 1
My fiancé and I have decided to have our wedding on a Friday. The venue we fell in love with is booked every Saturday until August of 2014!!!! I can’t imagine getting married anywhere else. Not to mention having it on a Friday will save us 10,000! I’m getting a lot of mixed opinions. A lot of people are saying they won’t be able to get out of work in time. Isn’t that why we send out save the dates 6 months in advance?? If you can’t find the time in 6 months to figure out how you’re going to get to my wedding in time then you probably don’t need to come. I’d just like to know some other people’s opinions. Or maybe someone here has had a Friday wedding before? I just want to make sure before I put down the “non-refundable” and very expensive deposit to hold the day.
Post # 3
Personally I’d probably just take the day off work because luckily I have that option/flexibility, but a lot of people aren’t able to do that so easily (won’t get paid for the day off, can’t afford it, don’t have any vacation time left, etc). So unfortunately I’m sure a bunch of people will either have to decline, or show up late.
Im sure the most important people will be there no matter what tho, so if this is what you want to do, then go for it!
Post # 4
I’m having a Friday evening wedding in my fiances home state…. So far only one person has declined that actually lives in the state. Our Ceremony starts at 6:30. If it’s important to your guests they will come! We also sent out save the date cards six months as well. Besides, Its your special day and your wallet to be mindfull of….Go for it girl!
Post # 5
I will be doing a Friday wedding and I’m not really worrying about that too much. Our ceremony starts at 5 so if people work a normal 8 to 5 they can take a half day and get out at 12 and still have time to make it to our ceremony if they can’t take the full day off. When we mentioned it to FH aunt her first thought was “I don’t know if I’m going to be able to make it to a Friday wedding” and her daughter was like “mom it’s called vacation days…just take a day off”……if the STDs are going out 6 months in advance that should give you plenty of time to make arrangements at work and if people truly care about you and want to share this special moment with you I believe they will do what they need to do to be there.
Post # 6
Not everyone has the type of flexibility with their jobs to be able to take off a weekday. Howewver, with enough notice, most of your guests should be able to attend.
Post # 7
I got married on a Friday and I promise you this – everyone who cares enough about you will be there. You’re giving plenty of notice, it gives folk the chance to have a long weekend, it’s saving you cash and more importantly – its what you want for your day. We had everyone show up (except one uncle who was ill) and everyone had an extra day to recover from their wine heads 🙂
In this day and age a lot of people work weekends as well – you will never please all of the people all of the time – this is the one time you get to have exactly what you want so – go for it 🙂
Post # 8
We’re actually getting married on a Thursday. We’re having a small wedding (around 50 guests) and don’t meet the minimum headcount requirement to get our venue on a Fri, Sat or Sunday! It was either do a weekday or find a different venue.
Before agreeing to Thursday we checked with all of our ‘important guests.’ Obviously every person we’re inviting is important to us, but I mean our parents, grandparents, siblings, etc. Basically the people we wouldn’t want to get married without having with us. Everyone agreed that it was fine and we decided that with enough notice it wouldn’t be a problem. Most of our guests are from out of town so we sent out Save-the-Dates WAY early – 10 months in advance. Then invitations went out 3 months later. A lot of people think this is really too early, but personally I wouldn’t be booking flights/taking off work/planning a 10+ road trip without sufficient notice and without an invite.
We have only gotten one decline due to our wedding being on a Thursday. I just made sure to stress to people that they shouldn’t feel bad if they aren’t able to come. It is a weekday and you can’t expect people to use vacation time for your wedding if they don’t want/aren’t able to.
Post # 9
Im having my reception on May 10 starting at 9pm. I send the STD back in December. Tow couples told me they won’t be able to find baby sitters back in February. Other than that every one else is going.
Post # 10
Congrats on the wedding! We are also having a Friday night wedding as well on May 17th! Our ceremony starts at 6:30 to try and allow for people to still work most of the day and have time to get to get ready and get to the venue. We sent out save the dates six months in advance to allow people to plan accordingly if they so choose; like you we got a lot of mixed feedback but so far almost everyone we invited (175 people) are coming so if they have enough notice they will still come. I think when we announced the Friday night wedding 8 months ago people were more “shocked” than anything but quickly understood our decision. I have a TON of cousins in their 20’s and everyone is pumped that they have Saturday and Sunday to recover lol If you love that venue and like us saving a TON; go for it! Good Luck!
Post # 11
@hayleyelizabeth: I would just make sure your STD says “Friday May 23rd 2014” that way people understand right away its a FRIDAY wedding and if they want to come they can plan accordingly. People may just just see the May 23rd and go “oh okay” and ignore it w/o thinking
You very well may have a smaller guest list, but I don’t think that’s a problem I would have LOVED to have a Friday wedding as most guests are OOT anyways…. but that just didn’t fly with the FMIL who said it would make us “look cheap” and FI didn’t like hearing that (Lebanese culture aparently?) so we did Saturday despite the higher cost. If you can stick to your guns and get it done, do it! If people can’t make it, they probably weren’t that close anyways. I can’t see someone using all their vacation days for the year if you send the STD in December or January….
Post # 12
I had a semi-destination wedding (I and most of the closest guests lived at least an hour to an hour-and-a-half away — the rest, including my DH and our families, were from three-to-four hours away or much farther than that) on a Friday evening — of a holiday weekend — AND I chose NOT to send save-the-date notices, and we still had about 150 guests at our wedding. You should be fine. 🙂
Post # 13
It’s annoying and a bit inconsiderate but do what you need to do. My FH’s cousin is getting married on a Friday six hours away. We have to board the dog on that Thursday, start driving at 7 AM, get to our hotel around 3 PM, get ready, go to her wedding, and then drive back the next day and get our dog the day after. We both have to take off for it and we have little vacation time because we just started our jobs. We don’t even have the vacation time to take a honeymoon this year. When it comes down to it though, she is family and we’ll be there for family.
Luckily we do have vacation time to take off though. I always feel bad for the ones who don’t have vacation time.
Post # 14
i went to my first friday wedding in november 2012. it was requested we be there at 5pm.
some of the girls i knew took the whole day off. i only took half a day off from work to go home, shower, get ready, etc.
if your friends, family, etc, won’t take time off, even a couple of hours for your special day, i’m sorry to say that they might not be as good friends as your thought.
Post # 15
We had a Friday wedding here! At first we were concerned it would be a problem for our immediate family and very close friends, which would be baaaaad. So we asked everyone that we absolutely could not get married without, if it was going to be ok with them. I think people really appreaciated that we were thinking about them and taking them into consideration when we planned our wedding, and so they made sure they could come. We had a Friday wedding, and I didn’t even worry about save the dates! We invited 65 people, 2 declined because my friend was already in a wedding party for a wedding the same day, and I had a couple not show up due to illness. But nobody said they couldn’t come because it was a Friday, and nobody said anything to us about it inconviencing them. It was a fabulous day!
Post # 16
Some people truly can’t afford to take the day off. I tend to go to those Friday weddings that start later. I think more people would be able to make it if you start at seven to take in account people’s work schedules. I think some people would have the flexibility to leave a little early rather then talking the whole day or multiple hours off.