Post # 1
So, I found a venue that I absolutely fell in love with. Of course we simply can’t afford a Saturday night. We’re considering having a Friday night wedding just to secure this place, But I have some nagging concerns….
1. Are Friday night weddings still taboo? Maybe not taboo per se, but looked down upon?
2. We can start the ceremony anytime between six and 7:30 PM if we want. Six seems too early because people have work but was 730 they’ll be eating pretty late…which is more desirable for a Friday? Also if we had it at six, reception ends at 1130…early!
3. If we did a 7 PM ceremony, the reception would end at 12:30. Is that too early? Should I push for 1 am?
Need some help wise bees!! Xoxo
Post # 3
I think that a Friday from 7 – 12:30 would be perfect!!!
Post # 4
I don’t think Friday weddings are taboo. I think they’re slightly inconvinent, but not unreasonable. I think if you do have a Friday wedding, it should be as late as possible, though.
Post # 5
I think Friday weddings are fie. Starting the ceremony later would probably be a good idea so people have enough time to travel and things like that. The reception ending at 12:30 depends on your crowd of people. We were home and in bed by 11 at our wedding but we aren’t late night partiers.
Post # 6
We started our Friday wedding at 6:30pm — worked out just fine!
Post # 7
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
Friday is great so long as your guests don’t have to travel too far of a distance to attend. For example, the average travel time for my guests was 2 hours– not awesome after a long day of work. But if everone is local, it’s no big deal.
As for timing, especaily on a friday– I think your end times look fine.
Post # 8
We are having a Friday wedding for the same reasons loved the venue but couldn’t afford the Saturday prices. We are starting at 6 but our ceremony as at is outside. So if you’re doing or want to take pictures outside think about what time the sun is going to set.
I also think that for a Friday wedding, since people have to be dressed and at your ceremony pretty early, most people will probably have to take at least a half day of work. So if you want to start a little earlier than 6:30 I don’t think it would be a major issue.
Post # 9
It really depends on your crowd and traffic in your city.
Do you know if most people will be coming from work? Is your crowd the type that needs 2+hours to prep for an event?
I attended a Friday wedding years back and it was so inconvienent! Getting to some obscure part of Long Island during rush hour traffic from the city was a nightmare.
Post # 10
I think it’s your wedding and you guys should do whatever works for you. I don’t think it will be a problem to have a start time of 630 at all. We are having a Friday wedding and are having our ceremony start at 5 or 530 (haven’t decided yet). We are sending save the dates out 6 months in advance I think our guests will be able to adjust their work schedules as needed if they want to be there. You can never please everyone so just please yourselves and your majorly important weddings guests (if possible). Everything always works out 🙂
Post # 11
I’ve gone to a wedding on a Friday and I am having a Friday wedding of my own! I didn’t mind going to the Friday wedding. It was local and started at 7pm I believe so I had time after work to get ready. They had snacks for the guests so I wasn’t feeling starved by dinnertime. My Friday wedding is at 4pm, however mine is also a destination wedding so nobody would be coming straight from work…
I think if you make it clear what day of the week and time it is (Example: Friday, November 16, 2012 at 7:00 p.m.) on the invitation people will find a way to work around it. They can have a snack at home while getting ready or bring dress clothes to work to change into, etc.
Post # 12
We are having a Friday wedding, it starts at 3:30. Reception goes til midnight. Most people will still be on holiday and those who aren’t don’t seem to mind having the day off 🙂
Post # 13
My Friday ceremony started at 5pm, and I had no complaints, however a huge portion of my guests were Out of Town (as in 4+ hours).
Post # 14
I live in a very high-traffic city, where the traffic is a nightmare until 7 or 730, so honestly, I would be a bit annoyed with a wedding if it were in a place with bad traffic patterns.
If you’re set on a Friday wedding, I would start as late as possible so people have time to get home from work and change. I think a 7 pm wedding would be accepable, but starting earlier than that gets a little iffy
Post # 15
We had a Friday wedding! It was the only date available at the venue we both fell in love with, PLUS it was that little bit cheaper for having it on a Friday! I’ve also been to Friday weddings, and as long as I have enough notice it’s no problem for me to take a day or a half day off of work, and I have always found it a lovely way to start my weekend! Is it inconvenient for some people? I don’t think we had one guest complain…If they did it was all in fun 🙂 Bottom line, the people who really want to be there will find a way.
Post # 16
There’s a lot to consider if your going to do a Friday wedding, but just to get you started:
How many guests, how far they have to come, and what they’re expected to wear.
Friday weddings certainly aren’t taboo, and I wouldn’t look down on anyone for having one as long as the expectations were reasonable. Since most people have to work and taking a day off for a wedding that isn’t yours or that of a close relative seems to be too much, I always appreciate having a place that is nearby and having ample time to get out of work mode and into wedding mode.
I don’t know about everyone else, but I look like hell when I get home from work, seriously, I work a desk job but when I walk in the door you would think I get paid to wrestle lions or something…I need a chance to get out of my office attack stance, certainly get a shower, get all pretty and change clothes at least three times while Mr. 99 waits downstairs talking to the cat about how, “We never rush Mommy, NEVER EVER!”
So as long as my hosts are generous and understanding with those elements, we can all be excited and enjoy the ceremony and reception as a lovely start to the weekend.