Post # 1
Hello, friends! I just heard back from our venue of choice. Because we have a small guest list (100 which will likely cut down to 80 with so many out-of-towners), they are willing to work with us on bringing the pricing minimums down BUT that would require a Friday or Sunday wedding. I’m not a fan of the Sunday idea, but Friday doesn’t rub me the wrong way. However, I am concerned about the potential for guests not to be able to do a Friday…
If you did a Friday wedding, what are the pros and cons? Do you have any regrets? Advice for me?
Although if we do decide on a Friday, I’m gonna have to pick a different week to find an odd-numbered date. I can’t stand the idea of being married on an even number!
Post # 3
We just recently went to a Friday wedding and it was a tad inconvenient for the guests. Many of us had to rush from work to get ready and then speed to the church for the ceremony. I was unable to take an early leave so I was rushing like crazy. Just something to think about when planning a Friday wedding.
BUT, it is all about what YOU want!
Post # 4
@MissCalifornia: I’m getting married on a Friday and the only thing I didn’t like was people had to take off work for my day so some couldn’t come… some that I was happy didn’t but some was upsetting.
I love the price and so far all the prices because you get discounts like crazy! It was also really easy to book people because most Saturdays would have been taken. There are mores plus sides I think than negative.
Post # 5
@MissCalifornia: You sound like my best friend! She wants three kids just because she can’t stand even numbers :).
- Guests have the rest of the weekend
- Might be difficult for Out of Town guests who will have to get a day off of work
- Probably better to have an evening ceremony (not sure if that’s a pro or a con!)
Really, I would just try to stay flexible and try not to be too upset if a couple guests can’t make it. Other than that, it should be fine!
Post # 6
I originally wanted to plan a Friday night wedding, because I knew it would save us money – but Fiance and my family pretty much were dead-set against it. They didn’t want to inconvenience anyone – which after thinking about the people on our guest list, I had to agree with.
I think Friday night weddings are good if you’re going to have a fairly young guestlist – but if you’re going to have a decent number of older people (who may not drive at night), you might want to take that into consideration.
Post # 7
Hmm, yeah, the biggest thing I’m worried about is people not being able to make it. I know the out-of-towners honestly will either be there or not, a Friday won’t change that much. It’s the people in town I do worry about more, since especially where I work we don’t get off ’til 5:30 so people would have to take either half or all of the day off.
However, the money saved would be REALLY good for us. I won’t know how much until we meet with the coordinator next week, but right now we’re trying to cut as many corners in our budget as possible, and this place is so beautiful AND really convenient (I could actually walk there from our apartment, and it’s in the center of the city).
@jo.lee: Heh, yeah, I’ve been anti-even numbers since middle school. Not sure why, but “even” numbers don’t seem even to me. Fiance calls it my crazy lady theory.
Post # 8
My BIL had a Friday wedding, in which my husband was a groomsman. They picked it based on the date, and I’m unsure of whether they saved a significant amount of money at the place they chose.
The major con was definitely losing time from work. My husband is not really “supposed” to take days off because he’s a teacher, and the wedding took place at the very beginning of the school year. To make the Thursday rehearsal dinner, he had to rush out of work early and take a 2.5-hour train ride upstate. I had to take Friday off and ride up alone because I couldn’t lose two days from work. Several guests missed the ceremony because they didn’t want to leave work early, and just came to the reception.
If you don’t think the work thing would inconvenience too many people, or your wedding party, I say go for it!
Post # 9
We’re doing Friday. The cons for us are: most folks will have to take some type of time off from work, DC RUSH HOUR TRAFFIC is probably the number one guest con.
Other than that, I can’t think of any. As a pp mentioned, the discounts don’t stop at the venue, we got discounts with our DOC and caterer as well. Not to mention vendor availability has been great. I have only had 1 vendor say they are booked for our date.
ETA: I have heard that a lot of people skip the ceremony for Friday weddings. So if that will be an issue for you, it’s something to consider. For us, our guest list is small and everyone is pretty important and from Out of Town. So I don’t expect that to be a huge issue. At the end of the day, whoever wants to be there WILL BE THERE. Send out a STD and let the chips fall where they may. If a Friday works better for you for whatever reason, go for it.
Post # 10
If you do Friday, I would recommend starting the ceremony at 6:30 or later. Any earlier, and I think it’s too inconvenient for guests coming from work. But 6:30 seems to be a good ceremony starting time, and gives most guests enough time to leave work & get to the venue.
I don’t think Friday is ideal, but I have been to Friday weddings that started a little later in the evening that were great fun & not too inconvenient! One Friday wedding I went to over the summer started at 5, and guests were grumbling about how it was really hard to leave work early, get ready for the wedding, rush downtown, etc. Just keep your guests in mind & it will work out okay!
Post # 11
@KatyLovesJoey: That’s a good point, thanks. Almost 90% of our guest list is younger than 30, so I think a Friday would be acceptable. Those who are older consist mainly of family who would probably stay in the venue (a hotel), so driving wouldn’t be a factor for them.
Post # 12
@Ms Bookworm: I agree, 6:30 would definitely work the best, especially since things in our city get a little crazy between 5-5:30 (smalllll downtown, so traffic gets backed up like WHOAH).
Post # 13
I went to 2 friday weddings and a sunday wedding this year. All were a good time.
The cons of the friday wedding were that some people had to rush out after work. Some had to deal with Friday rush hour traffic and some couldn’t come because of work.
The pros were it was cheaper for the bride and groom, people came and had a good time and had the rest of the weekend to enjoy.
Sunday wedding was pretty much the same accept people left earlier to go home and sleep for work the next day. But honestly a MAJORITY of the people stayed until the end.
Post # 14
You really have to think about your guest list, IMO, in order to weigh your decision. Those that are travelling from out of town would likely take days of work to travel to your wedding, regardless of the day it falls. Keep in mind that it will push any rehearsal earlier in the week – which also may require some to take time off work (depending on the timing, etc.)
For all the Friday weddings I’ve attended, I’ve had to take time off work – and sometimes Darling Husband wasn’t able to, so I went alone. Keep in mind that you will be having your guests make that decision (if they are able to take a day off) and some people may have to work the next morning – so that may create an issue with how long they are able to stay, etc.
Post # 15
I personally think that an early Sunday wedding would be better then Friday night…
Post # 16
We was considering a Friday wedding because of the cost but in the end we just went with a Saturday wedding because it ended up being the same. But I am all for a Friday wedding. I think it works out best for the out of towners. If guest are flying in on Thursday night then the wedding is Friday they will still have the rest of the weekend to enjoy the city. As long as its a Friday evening event then it should work out fine for everyone.