- 4 years ago
- Wedding: August 2015
Regular poster going anon for this one!
I really just need a rant! I don’t know if I am being overly emotional or if it is justified.
So here we go… My friend and I are both planning our weddings at the same time. I am to be married 7 months before her. I’m not really the ‘artsy/crafty’ type person and the idea of planning a wedding was seriously over whelming. We are each others bridesmaids aswell by the way.
So anyway things were going great and I was really greatful for her input and help but it all took a turn for the worse on the day I went dress shopping. She came with all of my other bridesmaids and mother. I tried on dozens of dresses and they all looked nice, except the odd couple that were hidieous. Then I found one dress that was lace and beautiful and everyone loved it and so did I. Except her, she hated it. I didn’t by it because I had a few more appointments to go to and didn’t want to rush into anything. Anyway the next day she said ‘your trying on similar dresses to mine’ and that took me by surprise because the only thing similar was lace. I soon realised that was why she said she hated it because she didn’t want me to have it. If she had just been upfront I would have gladly had a chat with her about it.
This really made me distrust her, I just think surely you cannot be that petty? Then I started looking for bridesmaids dresses, she told me under no circumstances could I have similar ones to the ones she was having. So I thought ok thats fine. I organised to visit a well known bridal store with all my bridesmaid and mother again and then she said ‘oh while we’re here you can try on dresses for my wedding’ she had told me she had decided on the dresses I would have really liked for my wedding but clearly she hasnt because why is she telling me to try on dresses for her. It’s like shes purposely trying to make sure she gets first choice on everything (shes very competitive by the way which I am not at all) and the bridesmaid shopping was a day I organised for my wedding. not hers.
I knew something was up because she was in a really bad mood with me for like two days then I overheard her saying to a friend that I have stole all her wedding ideas, and I am thinking to myself what ideas have I stole???!! She was the one always going on about this and that and that I should have this and do this blah blah blah. I feel so hurt I would never speak about someone like that especially who I consider to be my best friend. If she didn’t want to get involved in my wedding she didn’t have to. I am not a bridezilla if anything I am really easy going and just wanted to enjoy the whole process with my friends. I don’t have many but the ones I do have I consider to be family. I am ready to cut ties to be honest.
I then organised my bridal shower, which I am flying out of town for and I have planned a fantastic event with the help of my Maid/Matron of Honor. The bridesmaid had all hers planned months ago but as soon as I say I am flying out of town she has decided to change hers and she is also planning on doing something similar and had her friend reorganise hers without involving me she just turned up and said the next day oh yeah I am not doing that now I am doing this. I was like ‘where did this come from’ she was like ‘well I have always wanted to go there so I am’ after telling me that she didn’t like my plans for my bridal shower!!!!
What do you guys think? am I over reacting? there has been other instances but I cannot discuss them on here I just really distrust her as a friend. I just think surely she should be happy for me and want me to have a lovely day not worry that mine will be better. She also talks about other peoples weddings and how awful they are and how hers will be better. I wouldn’t be at all surprised if she is saying the same about mine. The worse part is was that I looked to her for advise and really trusted her but now I am just angry and would not have her involved in any decisions. There is no way I would ask her to step down as bridesmaid I just don’t want her involved incase she is purposely trying to sabotage my wedding.
Thanks in advance bees!