- 5 years ago
I had a BF for most of highschool. We did EVERYTHNG together. At that time, she was overweight and not someone that the boys liked. But, she was an amazing friend and we had so much fun together.
I was a grade older, and when I graduated, obviously things started to change. But when I was home from school, we would always meet up. Still had a strong friendship. But once she started college, she started to not have time for me. Then the changes started…..good changes, like loosing weight. But at that time, you could tell that she was loosing her “awesomeness” and started to pick up some “b*tchiness”
Fast forward 7 years. She is living in Florida, Im in NY. I went to visit her 2x in a 2 year period. Both times, I told her to come visit me. We would have so much fun. Both times she told me that she would try, but it was always hard to get off of work. But, via FB, I saw that she was visiting college friends. And even spent a week in upstate NY and didnt even try to make time for us to meet up
Fast forward 5 years from then. We barely speak. Maybe a FB message her or there. She would send me messages about dates she had, and what kind of car they would pick her up in and how much money they made. This is NOT the girl I knew. All of her FB statuses are about high heels, short skirts and drinking. She is 28-29 years old at this time
Then comes the day that I get a FB message about getting a BOOB JOB!! About 10 of her college friends replied “oh yeah….how fun….boobs….blah, blah, blah”. Remember, these are the girls that she considers her true friends. Im the only one that replied that she doesnt need fake boobs to be pretty. All of her friends jumped on me, calling me horrible names.
Not only did she not stick up for me, but in the past few years she hasnt ONCE commented on anything I post about my and my SO (my future FI). Hasnt given me congrats when I got my dream job. Didnt return a vmail I left for her when my dad died (he and I werent close, but she offered to talk. figured she would reply especially after everything I did for her when her dad died)
At this point, I decide to leave it be. I left her as a FB friend as it was too hard to cut the cord, even though I knew we werent friends any longer. In the past 6 months, the only things about her I know are how big her new boobs are, what guy she is sleeping with now, and that shes a “rockstar” (her words, not mine). Ive seen her cut people down that dont agree with her, and her good “friends” suck up to her. To be honest, it pathetic to me that this is how a 30 yr olf WOMAN acts
Fast forward to yesterday…..she said something stupid about football. I had a drink or 2, so maybe I shouldnt have said anything, but I called her out for not even watching the game.. Friendly football banter. Most peiple know how to handle it. Not her….she told me that I was attacking her and that I was hostile. I then watched some guy say they same things I did and she LOLed. At that moment, I knew we were done.
I guess Im just mourning a bit today. I dont know where things went south with us. And I cant believe that she attacked me yesterday. I get the feeling that she has been waiting for me to say something even 1% negative to her. Not only would it give her the right to come at me, but she doesnt know how to handle it
At this point, Im done. I defriended her and any mutual friends we have. Its better for me to walk away. Im at a point in my life where Im ready for marriage and kids. She is still at a point where she needs to talk about how much she drinks, and how short her skirts are. And thats fine. It just hurts that she dropped me after all these years. Especially as I was the one backing her up when she was ridiculed in highschool. These new “friends” never knew that girl….and for that I feel bad for them
Sorry for the rant. Had to get that off my chest