Post # 1
- Wedding: August 2014 - Outdoor/indoor
I’m in a bit of an awkward situation. I am newly engaged and planning a summer 2013 wedding. My fiancé doesn’t have a ton of close friends and will probably only be asking 2 men to stand with him on our wedding day. My sister will be my Maid/Matron of Honor and I plan on asking my closest girlfriend to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man.
Here’s the problem. I have a very controlling friend that doesn’t really have much of a filter or regard for how she treats others. She is dead set on being in my wedding party. I don’t want her to be, my family and fiancé are all against it as well. Simply put, shes dramatic, rude, controlling and will cause nothing but headaches and issues. I know this because i also work with her. I tried to tell her that we may have a very small wedding party and we’ll have to see. She didn’t react kindly to this. I don’t want to offend her but she probably won’t take it well when I finally get the guts to tell her she will only be a guest. (she’s an incredibly intimidating girl)
Any advice on how to go about this?
Post # 3
remind her that it is your wedding and you pick who the bridesmaids are, explain that you want supportive friends who understand it is your wedding and not theirs. if she threatens not to come unless she is a bridesmaid say that you are sorry that she will not be able to attend.
Post # 4
I wouldn’t say “we’ll see” because that will only prolong the agony of her pestering you. Just tell her it’s a small wedding party and it’s already been set. IF she asks why your best friend and not her, say, “Becasue she’s my best friend and I only wanted a small wedding party of two bridesmaids”.
Post # 5
as pp said, tell her that it is a small wedding and will only have 2 bm. however, it is still really important to you for her to be part of your big day so perhaps you can give her another duty at the wedding. read a poem, hand out programs, say grace. there are many things to keep her really special.
Post # 6
I second mypinkshoes! You might want to practice at home with your Fiance saying ‘no’ — I know it sounds silly, but it could really help. Also, give her a job where her aggressive personality will be an asset — perhaps she could be an usher?
Post # 7
@likelimeade: Be a bouncer at the reception,lol
Just tell her no, and stick by your word. Keep explaining you have 2 groomsmen and want an even number, and explain why you cose those 2 women.