Post # 1
I don’t normally post but I’d like other’s advise.
I am getting married on August 23rd next year in an Elizabethan Manor in the South West UK.
I have just learnt that a friend who is invited to my wedding and with whom I share friends has chosen 9th August – just two weeks before.
Then I saw the venue they had chosen and it is almost, and I mean almost identical and in the same area. It is also an Elizabethan manor.
I am writing because I feel so strongly that this is unfair that I feel like I ought to do something. The date is so very close AND the venue is almost identical and they chose this despite knowing our plans in BOTH instances.
I am very upset about this. Am I being unreasonable?
Your advise on what I should say, or what I should/should not do will be really appreciated.
Post # 3
@Bridesecret: Wait, so it’s not the exact same venue? If it were, it’d be a little weirder, but if it’s only “similar”….eh.
I would say who cares. There are a lot of similar venues in similar cities. I’m sure you’ll do plenty to personalize your wedding.
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
I don’t know that you CAN do anything, other than be pissed. 🙁 It is very irritating, but do you really think she’d change her venue? You can have it out with her, which is bound to end badly. Or you could just let her know that you think it was a lame move… but she’ll probably say it’s not the same place so why does it matter, blah blah… or you can just suck it up, as they say. I guess it depends on your relationship with her.
Post # 5
@Bridesecret: eh, it dosn’t sound like too big of a deal. I could understand if it was exactly the same one but since it’s a different one, I don’t think it matters.
Post # 6
@Bridesecret: While I know it’s frustrating, the bottom line is that you don’t have the monopoly on Elizabethan manors. They chose one that’s similar, not even the same one and even that is permissable. If you’re concerned about the weddings being similar, don’t disclose your plans, listen to theirs and avoid duplications. I guarantee your weddings won’t be as identical as you’re concerned.
Post # 7
I think you are being unreasonable.
Post # 8
@Bridesecret: I don’t think there is anything you can or should do. I mean the date and venues are close I guess but no matter what it will be your special day unique to you. Don’t worry about it, there are far more important things to worry yourself with then this 🙂
Post # 9
Yes, you’re overreacting. Don’t say or do anything. Focus on your own wedding and stop worrying about something you can’t control and that doens’t even really matter.
Post # 11
I would say screw it! Its what you wanted right? So its similar places, it happens more than you think! It just means you both have awesome taste.
Post # 12
Thanks. Wow that was a very quick responce!
I guess I wouldn’t do it so don’t expect it of others. Especially a good friend.
Cheers for giving me perspective
Post # 13
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
And the problem with this is ???????????????? This is probably only an issue of you choose to make it one.
Post # 14
@Bridesecret: I think since it’s a different manor you will be ok.
Just in case, DO NOT share any other wedding infor with her.
Post # 15
It blows that they’re so close together! But they’re not the actual same building or anything, so I wouldn’t worry too much!
Post # 16
@Bridesecret: um, it’s not even the same venue?! You really need to get over it.