Post # 1
Just opened facebook and see a guy friend of mine just got engaged. I am doing the ugly cry and I feel pathetic.
I’m just sitting here thinking “Really? an incontrol woman like myself (and many of us others) just has to sit and “hope” that the ring is coming today or soon? Is that all it comes down to?”
I feel terrible and lame. I don’t normally feel this sorry for myself but he’s had the ring now for 2 months and many opportunities. And I just sit here and wait like a good little thing until he feels ready to present it to me, while everyone else in 2 years relationships gets engaged.
foo 🙁 sorry for the sulky rant.
EDIT: AND I post in the wrong topic! Can someone move to waiting?
Post # 4
cheer up, and don’t be envious. your time will come.
Post # 5
Thanks 🙂 This post is so pitiful, even waiting bees don’t want to comment on it, lol! It’s just so hard sometimes. Just not a good waiting day today.
Post # 6
@JellyFeet: beleive me, your not alone, i feel that way all the time,
Post # 7
Not everyone gets engaged at the same time. Just remember, your life is not on hold just because you arent engaged. You are with the love of your life and he is not going anywhere. Just keep your head up and dont feel sorry for yourself, you might miss out on the fun of everything by simply waiting for him to pop the question
Post # 8
haha welcome to my life. I can’t even count the number of couples who got engaged this summer and how depressing it was for me. *waits*
Post # 9
Haha, your fellow waiting bees haven’t commented yet because for a lot of us it’s still pretty early in the morning! 😉
I know how you feel, and it sucks. Recently I have had 2 weddings and an an engagement pop up on facebook, followed shortly by the news that a couple we know is going to be engaged soon. Blegh. Have you asked what the hold up is? Maybe he’s waiting for a special event or holiday?
Post # 10
ugh as hard as it is, try not to show these feelings to your SO. my Fiance had the ring 4 months before proposing, and around the 2 month mark i said “arent you proud of how patient ive been?” and he said “well you were until then… let me do this one thing how i want to.” it sucked waiting the next couple months (he had a specific weekend in mind), but like everyone says- it was completely worth it and i feel silly being so impatient now.
Post # 11
If it makes you feel better, I dated my SO for 9 years before finally getting engaged. So I’ve definitely been there as I watched all of our college friends get engaged after dating for very short amounts of time
Post # 12
@JellyFeet: I totally feel you! It seems like everyone I know has been getting engaged this year and they’ve all been dating less time than SO and I have. We’ve been together for over 4 years and he just now gave me a timeline for the end of next summer so it will have been over 5 years by the time we get engaged and who knows how long before we actually get married.
I try to be rational about it, but some days are just harder than others, especially those where I see other people getting engaged. Hang in there!
Post # 13
Cry it out honey. Being upset doesn’t mean you aren’t a mature, healthy, “in control” woman. It just means you’re a human being with emotions. 🙂 The feelings you’re having are totally valid and a lot of us have been there. You are by no means a crazy person. 🙂 All I can say is that it will be all the sweeter once it’s your turn. I’m sure it’s not for a lack of opportunities for him to do it but rather he probably has a specific plan in mind.
Crossing my fingers for you! 🙂
Post # 14
i know how you feel, he doesnt even have a ring yet and weve been together almost 3… Your almost there 😀 im sure it will be soon 🙂
Post # 15
@countrygirl12: 3 years. I wish. 7 years right here 😀
@JellyFeet: Your time will come and it will be worth it. It’s normal to feel that way though! I do too when I log onto facebook and see the same. *Hugs*!
Post # 16
@JellyFeet: Hang in there, you’re almost there! If it makes you feel any better I have considered hiding some people’s status updates on my fb after they get engaged/pregnant. Don’t get me wrong, if they are my good friends I am always over the moon happy for them. If you find it getting to you, I’d consider staying off fb or hiding people’s statuses.
You’re sure to have a ring on your finger soon!