Friend feels left out

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
7055 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@renee.roberta:  No need to include her in any way. She didn’t have you as a BM so I don’t understand why she should have a problem. Your rationale is simple: you are closer to the other girls. (And that is also the exact reason why she didn’t include you, or course).

p.s. How many in your “group”, and do numbers/membership of your group ever change? At least in my experience, groups aren’t hard and fast (people occasionally come and go), so including everyone in a group isn’t necessary.

Post # 5
15 posts
  • Wedding: March 2014

I wouldn’t worry about L or her feelings. You shouldn’t feel bad about this. It is your day and she didn’t worry about you or include you, so she needs to grow up. This is making your wedding and life way too difficult.

Post # 6
1981 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I think it’s silly of her to be upset about not being involved in your wedding when you weren’t involved in hers- you two aren’t as close!  I also agree with your FI and she doesn’t need to be an usherette.  She is still a guest, and can go to wedding events.  She needs to put her big girl panties on and get over it.

Post # 7
42182 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Both of you are old enough to be married. Both of you should be mature enough to realize that every bride needs to draw the line somewhere. You do not need to include her in any way. The people who stand up with you should be people you are close to, not just part of a group.

Post # 8
108 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@renee.roberta:  No. You are going to be a married woman. Use your backbone. There is absolutely no need to make a bridesmaid or “helper” out of pity. This girl needs to put her big girl panties on and get over it. Heck, you aren’t even obligated to invite her if you don’t feel close to her. 

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