Friend getting Officiated? What problems could this cause?

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
242 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

What state are you in? This could change the answers you get. State run varies on who can officiate. 

Post # 4
8850 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

I think that like picking a bridal party, etc, you should WAIT before asking your friend to officiate.  Who the heck knows what will happen in the next 2.75 years.

We’re having a friend officiate, and we waited to ask him until about 6 months out.  That gave him plenty of time to get ordained and to think about what he wants to say, but not enough time for him to get anxious about it or anything.

You should make sure your state allows ministers that don’t actually have a congregation.  And obviously your friend should be a good public speaker, confident in crowds, hopefully funny, etc.

You’ll also need to decide if you want to write the ceremony yourself and have him add some things (what we’re doing), or ask him to write the whole thing (which is quite a lot more to ask).

Post # 5
362 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would make sure that you have a back up plan.  We were going to have someone we know officiate and he backed out so we had to find an officiant with only a few months to go.  Backup plans are a good idea.

Post # 7
2694 posts
Sugar bee

@Wildflower2016:  Minister seems to be relative to some people. I had a minister officiate, but it was completely secular. I would talk to the venue to see about the one they use there. Some do it for the money and will cater the ceremony to your preferences.

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