- 4 years ago
- Wedding: April 2016
My wedding is still very far off. (32 months)
But I am looking at venue prices and such now so I have a plan and a back up plan and hopefully one year prior to my wedding I can call, book, write a check, and be done. I’m working on getting all the stressful searching out of the way so all I have to really do the year prior is enjoy planning my wedding and not want to elope.
I found a really pretty wedding chaple near where we decided was a perfect reception venue. And in there package is says it includes a non-denominational minister
One thing that my FI and I had to comprimise on was what kind of officiant we wanted. I would prefer a church wedding, by a pastor, preferably baptist and preferably at the church I attend. However my fiancee was raised Catholic/Jewish turned agnostic. And I am from a Baptist/Catholic household. I know several of our family members will have a fit because we do not want a Catholic ceremony. And I am not Jewish and he is not practicing so a Jewish ceremony makes no sense. And my church requires counciling before hand and because he is agnostic they will most likely refuse to marry us and I am uncomfortable with him lying to the pastor about his beliefs.
So we decided after talking to a good friend of mine who has become a good friend of my FI that we would like a friend to get officiated and marry us so we can leave religion out of it, because while I have my beliefs I have no issues with leaving religion out of my wedding, and I think my day would be more fun if my friend was marrying us, plus he said he would do it as our wedding present, so one less person to pay 🙂
However if a venue says Minister available and is included in wedding package, does this generally mean we HAVE to use that minister?
I know I need to call the place to find out for sure but I am trying to not make calls until closer to the one year mark for the big day.
Does anyone have any experiance with this?
Also if anyone has had a friend perform the ceremony what problems occured, or what did you wish had happened differently?