Friend having cat put to sleep…

posted 3 years ago in Pets
  • poll: When should I give her the photo book?
    Thursday when you see her at work : (20 votes)
    48 %
    Wait a bit until next week : (21 votes)
    50 %
    Other (please explain) : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

    @MrsLongcoatPeacoat:  I think that’s a really sweet gesture. I see it as a sympathy card of sorts, so I would give it to her right when she gets back to work. You can gauge her reaction to what happened of course and perhaps give it to her at the end of the day when she will have privacy (I would hate to be crying at work!).

    Post # 5
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    673 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    @MrsLongcoatPeacoat:  I would give it to her Thursday at the end of the day. If she doesn’t want to look through it right away, she won’t have to, but she will have it and I think it will help her through her grief. Just make sure to check up on her during the weekend, if she seems really down.

    Post # 7
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    1302 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    No, I think that is a really sweet gesture and while it might make her nostalgic and emotional, I don’t think it will make her sad. We all know when we get a pet that this dreaded day will come – it is just a fact of life. I’m sure she will appreciate your gift and it will remind her of her beloved cat.

    When my mom had to put her cat down, a close friend of hers just sent a sympathy card and a little christmas ornament with his picture on it. My mom was SOO touched that someone would acknowledge that she lost a dear pet.

    Post # 8
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    767 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    @BluePeaches:  +1

    @MrsLongcoatPeacoat:  I agree with the other ladies here, that is such a lovely thing for you to do. I had my beautiful Siamese put to sleep last November; I couldn’t look at pictures of him for a couple of weeks but now I look at them and while they do sometimes make me cry, they mostly make me smile. I’d give it to her so that she can open it when she is ready. 🙂

    Post # 10
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    2247 posts
    Buzzing bee

    That is a really, really lovely thing for you to do.

    I agree with @Sea_Ashley:  “while it might make her nostalgic and emotional, I don’t think it will make her sad. We all know when we get a pet that this dreaded day will come – it is just a fact of life. I’m sure she will appreciate your gift and it will remind her of her beloved cat.”

    Post # 11
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    1722 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    You’re so sweet. I think giving it to her at the end of the day would be best, maybe even wrapping it so she can open it later when she is by herself. I’m sure she will cherish it for years to come. :'(

    Post # 12
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    3057 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    @MrsLongcoatPeacoat:  I’m not sure if you’ve given this to her yet or not… but I had a similar situation. I waited almost a week. I wanted to give it to her sooner as I thought it may help her heal, but she was so devestated that I thought it might have been too soon. I think that you should give it to her either after work & tell her to not open it until she is home… or stop by her house & give it to her then. I won’t go too much into detail as I may be too late. I’m so sorry for your friend :(.

    I think the book will make her happy & sad. Overall, it will help her heal, she’ll feel very supported & I would 100% give her the gift. That’s very sweet of you to do!

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