- 4 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
Okay so I use the term “friend” lightly.
We are more like acquantances I guess.
But I do talk to her every so often and we have dinner every few months.
Anyway, she got married about 10 months ago to a guy she dated for, like, 6 months.
They are in horrendous debt (mostly because of her gigantic engagement/wedding rings) and the fact that he sounds like an immature, irresponsible child.
Anyway, she is constantly calling and texting me for advice on what to do about the fact that she doesn’t trust her husband.
Apparently she’s had trust issues since her teen years because of previous relationships, and it carried over to their relationship.
And I guess it doesn’t help that she says he is constantly texting/calling/hanging out with people he won’t disclose to her. She just knows that he’s chatting or hanging out with “friends” but doesn’t give her any details.
So she spies on him and goes through his phone, etc., like they are effing 13.
I’m sorry, but I don’t know what to say to her.
I don’t want her to be hurt or be in a bad relationship, but honestly …. why would you get married after knowing someone for 6 months, ESPECIALLY if there were trust/communication issues?!?!?!?!
I’ve never understood this. Ever.
There’s honestly never been a single moment in my 5 year relationship where we had trust issues or cheating issues.
I just. Don’t. Get. It.
Am I the only one who thinks that trust and communication should be, like, the building blocks of a relationship, not an after thought????