Post # 1
But he could not care less! Lol. We both don’t really wanna go to her wedding but if I were going I would’ve loved if he were there with me. The “friend” was worried that my SO would take offence (she says she has a lot of people to invite and can only invite one of us but will invite him if someone decides not to show up), but little does she know that he doesn’t care lol.
I’m wondering if I should just find an excuse and let her know that I will not be able to attend or should I just go? Help Bees. Thanks 🙂
Post # 3
Yeah I think you should let her know ASAP that you will not be going so that she can invite someone else. When my FI’s father passed away we considered having a very small wedding at a restauran with only 30-34 people invited if we would ahve done that and if I would have allowed +1s then we would have only been able to actually choose about 15 people. So I decided that if we were going to do that I was going to hand pick all 30 of them and no +1s. I’m so happy that we decided to just postpone the wedding and not to go that way, for me I think it would have been such a disapointing wedding.
Post # 4
If you are leaning on the side of not going, and her guest list is tight, I would not go and let her invite someone else that does care and wants to go.
Post # 5
It doesn’t sound you are too close with your “friend”, so I totally agree with @jny1179 – say no and let her invite someone who does care.
Post # 6
You say you are not upset that she did not invite him but your tone says otherwise, if this is the case, I would be open with her. I am in the same situation with my guests and know how hard it is.
Also, I would not want somebody at my wedding, especialy with a small guest list to refer to me as a “friend” in quotation marks…. so I don’t think you should go, she can invite somebody who actualy wants to be there.
Post # 7
@peaseblossom: I am not upset (not sure which tone you used to read my post), but we actually do not wanna go to her wedding. And I agree with you with the “friend” in quotation marks part (just that she thinks we are better friends than we actually are). I am of the opinion that everybody cannot be invited and if people who aren’t invited are upset, then so be it. Can’t please everybody and I actually don’t care so I understand her plight. But bottomline is, we really do not wanna go.
I agree with everybody else that I should just tell her I am not gonna come. But she may be a little upset about it though.
Post # 8
Personally, I wouldn’t be offended if the guest list is small. If it had a co-worker I am friends with and she doesn’t know my SO that well, I wouldn’t have a problem with this, as an example. That being said, if you don’t want to go, don’t go. Politely decline and your friend can invite someone else.
Post # 9
@MrsToBeeMgn: Eh, if you’re not going to invite people’s SOs, you can’t really be too upset if they don’t show up. It’s an invitation, not a summons.
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2012 - The Gables Inn, Santa Rosa, CA
If it were me, I’d go, but then again I don’t mind going places without DH.
Post # 11
I’m also reading that you do not want to go. Agree, no one at my wedding better think of me as a “friend” 🙂 I’m not paying for them to be there if that’s the case. Don’t go, and don’t feel guilty either.