(Closed) Friend is applying for the same internal position as me-heart dropped

posted 5 years ago in Career
Post # 3
3886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Darling Husband was just up against one of his two best friends for a really good job. His take on it was if he lost to the friend, at least he’d be losing to someone he respected, and was qualified for the job. The friend got the job, and Darling Husband doesn’t seem fussed about it at all.

Post # 4
2385 posts
Buzzing bee

It’s totally still worth trying. Just respectfully tell her you’re applying for the same position. If I were her, I’d be really upset if you got it and didn’t tell me you were applying.

Post # 5
8042 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@Miss Gamer:  Try to forget about her. Don’t discuss this job w. her… just stick to neutral topics. If she gets the job, try not to have any hard feelings. Usually it’s nothing personal.. it’s who is better suited to the job and you never know what the hiring manager is thinking.

As far as interview questions go, I’d just google a whole bunch of them. Have a few stories ready… like how you overcame a difficult/challenging situation, how you work well on a team, and a recent funny moment you experienced (I heard that question recently). Try to tie the experience you have into the interview… like how you know you can do X to make the company succeed.. etc. Use your insider knowledge to blow them away. Good luck!

Post # 6
1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

That happened to me once.  There were several of us that applied for the same job and we all just wished each other luck.  One of the applicants was a pretty good work-friend.  Neither one of us got the job but I would not have had hard feelings if my friend did get it.  That’s unfortunately how some things go – IMO there are so many politics and other things that go into jobs that I don’t think the best candidate gets the job most of the time.

Post # 7
4352 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I had a friend apply for the same job as me last spring. I knew she was more qualified in some aspects while I was more qualified in others. I figured the best person for the job would get it and it wouldn’t be anything against me if they chose her instead. They ended up not picking either of us and it was nice to have someone to complain about the company with.

Post # 8
619 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’ve had this happen twice in as many weeks…

The first one, a work friend and I both made it to interview, neither of us got it.

The second one was actually for the job I’m doing now (contract), I applied for it and so did two others who do the same job for lower pay, and NONE of us even made it to interview.

Post # 9
4321 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

In grad school, I had this situation, except that I knew all the applicants and was good friends with one of them. I got the position, and my friend was very gracious – congratulated me and we stayed friends.  (I actually got him an internship there later.) I would have been disappointed if it was the other way around, but I wouldn’t have held it against him.

Long story short — I think it’ll be fine, regardless if one of you gets the job.

Post # 10
772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Dealing with this now.  Applying for two jobs for which I have to go up against multiple friends.  It sucks, but it is also common for the type of job I am applying for. 

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