Post # 1
I sent out STD’s about a month ago for our destination wedding and recently got a text from a friend saying that she has booked accommodation and her friend is “coming to tag along. We come through saturday morning and home monday”. I don’t know how to take this message. Do you think she is inviting her friend to our wedding or does this mean her friend is just coming for a holiday but will find her on thing to do while our friend is at our wedding? FWIW she knows and is friends with most of our friends that are coming to the wedding so I don’t think she needs a plus one. The STD clearly had just her name on it.
If she does assume she can invite her friend, how do I politely inform her that her friend can’t come to the wedding? FI didn’t know how to take the text either so I just text back “awesome” because I didn’t no what else to say and didn’t want her to think I was ignoring her by not texting back. Because of my response, is it too late to ask her to elaborate on what she means?
Post # 2
I would ask her still. It sounds like the friend will be doing her own thing and kind of tagging song for a holiday. If she says the friend is coming to the wedding so that you are sorry, you misunderstood and that you don’t have the space/money for her friend to attend the wedding
Post # 3
I personally would read it as shes bringing someone as a travel companion and not as they’re coming to the wedding, but thats coming from someone who wouldnt want to travel to a destination wedding alone.
You could always text her back and say “I’m glad youre bringing a travel buddy, have you looked into things in the area they could do while you’re at the wedding?” So you’re not out and out asking, but you’re suggesting that they arent invited to the wedding even if they tag along on the trip. Then hopefully she’ll respond with either what the friend will be doing, or “Oh I thought they could come with” and then you can say you dont have space or whatever
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Post # 5
Hey – check out my last post. I had a very similar situation just in case if you need a little encouragement to ask your friend. Best of luck!