Friend is having a baby- what do you wish friends had done?

posted 2 years ago in Babies
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Frozen meals! I just had a baby and frozen meals all the way! 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

Called and visited.  I have one friend who said she was going to visit in the hospital and didn’t make it but then I did not hear from her till 3 months later and have not heard from her since then.  I guess we are not friends anymore.  Another texted and called all the way up till I had the baby but then I never heard from again.  I feel like if you are a real friend you will be there during one of my most important times in my life.  My son is almost two and I have still not heard from them. 

Post # 5
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

i guess frozen meals..although i had such a over abundance of frozen meals it was getting sickening. Also everyone usually does the same few meals so then its even worse. but really if someone whould have came over and offered to clean my house i probably would have gotten mad i just had a kid not paralyzed! but thats just my thinking

Also if you do the casseroles do half portions unless the person has a family other than her and husband because if its just them then they will be eating the same thing for 4+ days or atleast that many meals

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard

Frozen food, offering to go shopping for her,  help her clean house, offer to just sit and watch the baby so she can shower, clean or run to the store herself. I swear I was dying for adult companionship during that time. Just being there for her and visiting (not just in the very beginning either) will really help.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I second visiting! I got only a few (like 2..?) visitors and that sucked. My dd is 11 months and one of my closest friends still hasn’t called or visited, she only lives 30 minutes away. I loooved when people came over so I could show off dd. 

I also loved getting food. My SIL made supper for us every other day for about 2 weeks and it was amazing. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Food 100% – I loved every single person who brough me food, even if it was just something they picked up from Panera, it sounds silly but it was so hard to remember to eat sometimes so when people just showed up with food I was in love.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

swonderful:  offer to watch the baby for a few hours so she can sleep!! 

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

You sound like a good friend. i loved things i coukd put into the slowcooker if she has one of those

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard

swonderful:  You sound like a great friend. Trust me, she is going to be so tired and if she has a c-section or episiotomy, she will be in a lot of pain to move around.  Exhaustion sets in, if she’s breastfeeding it will drain you emotionally, mentally and physically. dishes will stack up, you forget to eat, household chores will go to the wayside, laundry will stack up. Having anyone there to help will be a huge deal to her at any given time. 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Just be the friend you have always been. During pregnancy, and after, a few of my friends without children kind of dropped off the radar for awhile. I completely understand not having kids and not wanting to hang out with a baby, but I really missed just grabbing a coffee or hanging out and chatting. Just being the same friend you have always been means the world, at least in my book. I had a child, I am still the same person, my time/schedule has just been modified. 

If your friend drinks coffee, maybe offer to stop by with one (she will be tired!) and just have a chat. Just simple gestures of friendship, that you would normally do, mean the world. 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

You want to know what would be better than frozen meals?  A fresh, hot meal!!

 

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Food!  Frozen or a fresh one.  Just call a few days in advance to make sure they need food that day.  The best part of having my mother stay with us a week was that she made food every night!

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