- 4 years ago
- Wedding: June 2015
i have kept in close touch with two friends from my undergrad, let’s call them A and B – they are both awesome people and we try and talk as much as we can. i’m overseas, A is on one coast, and B is 2000 miles from her – so we do our best!
i found out today that B is engaged to her longtime boyfriend – so happy for her! i knew that it was coming, she’d decided on a ring about a year ago and he’d been paying it off. additionally, she’d told us that she had a venue and date (although nothing booked) for this coming summer, so obviously it was coming! although i did find out on facebook, which is kind of hurtful :/ – note to self, call people.
I foresee a few issues though :/ one is that A is already married, and B has made comments in the past about how she ‘hopes she’s not the last one to be engaged’ ‘i’ll go crazy if you get engaged before me’ – etc. B is a big personality and exaggerates like this, that’s just how she is, although i’m pretty sure there was some truth there. so i’m nervous that i’ll be on the receiving end of some of those ‘jokes’.
the other is that i’m nervous they won’t keep their current date. obviously i’m not privy to their finances, but she has complained lately that they don’t have much $, and the date is this summer and neither family would be contributing much, if anything. which means – i’m scared they’ll bump it to next summer – which is when we want to get married. A would be in both bridal parties, and it would obviously complicate things with showers, bachelorettes etc.and beyond that, B can be competitive and planning a wedding at the same time might be a bit uncomfortable.
SO has the ring and has been planning to propose in the next few weeks and B can be a little competitive/sensitive and i really don’t want to hear any ‘stealing thunder’ comments. I stupidly thought, ‘oh god, people will think we copied them’ before thinking ‘you idiot, you’ve been together 6.5 years, no one will think that’ – i’m right…right?! haha
did this happen to anyone? did it all turn out fine?
and before anyone is concerned, i AM really happy for them – they’re an awesome couple and deserve tons of happiness and i would NEVER say any of this to them. it was a bit of a shock to see it today when i’ve been anticipating my own proposal.