Friend makes me feel uncomfortable sometimes.

posted 3 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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8518 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

It might not make you uncomfortable to see it, but maybe it makes her uncomfortable to be seen. 

I’m definitely pro breastfeeding and even nursing in public, but I wouldnt want to whip my boob out in front of company.

Post # 5
Hostess
15072 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@allyfally:  exactly.

Too add, for some people, breastfeeding is a very intimate/bond building time between mother and child she may just want those few minutes alone with her child. Also, the baby may not take noise or motion well while eating. There are a ton of reasons someone might choose to breastfeed in private, the best thing that you can do is just be as understanding and supportive as possible. If I were your friend, I wouldn’t feel awkward at all leaving guests to breastfeed, its just one of tjose things people will have to expect when visiting a new mother. I would leave the TV on for them though.

Post # 6
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8518 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Brittanyg20:  I agree that boobs are over sexualized, but for me its not a sexual thing for not wanting to whip my boobs out. I’m just not comfortable enough with my body to be okay with other people besides my FI seeing it.

Post # 7
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7216 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Brittanyg20:  Maybe she thinks your fiance might walk in? I had no problem breastfeeding in front of women, but felt awkward doing it in front of any male except my husband.

Post # 9
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5421 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Brittanyg20:  I don’t really see the issue TBH; her breasts, her choice. If she wants to breastfeed in private that is her perogative and I find it a bit odd that you get ‘uncomfortable’ about it.

Post # 12
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5421 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Brittanyg20:  Fair enough; quite a lot of women breastfeed privately though. The only reason I thought you had an issue was the title of your post; I just found it odd that you felt uncomfortable, as really, in this situation, her comfort is paramount, not yours.

It’s great being pro-breastfeeding; but I think sometimes some women go too far and can end up making some women feel inadequate. For example, your friend may not have appreciated you saying that she can do it in front of you, as I’m sure she realised that she can, but she has chosen not to; so pointing it out kind of creates an unnecessarily uncomfortable situation IMPO.

Post # 14
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5421 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Brittanyg20:  What, of waiting 20-30 minutes on your own?

I’m sorry, I just really don’t get the point of this post :-s

Post # 15
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11300 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@tksjewelry:  +1 I’ll likely do the same thing when we have kids, or at least have a cover. I’m just not comfortable with my boobs being out around people other than my husband (case in point–he’s the only person that I don’t wear a bra around 24/7). MOST women I know go to another room to feed. 

I’m sorry that it’s making you uncomfortable to sit around on your own, but you’re going to have to get over it. Bring a book or play on your phone or something. She can’t help that she needs to feed her baby frequently, and that she doesn’t want to do it in front of other people. 

Post # 16
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1590 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

My sister became a lot more comfortable with it the second time around.

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