Post # 1
Ok, so something so incredibly awkward happened. Cannot believe this. I was invited to a party, hosted by my friend. We haven’t caught up on each other’s news for a few months, and we’re not super-close. We just chat occasionally and run in the same circles. Somehow, she thought Mr.London and I were engaged. So I arrive at the party, and she walks across the room to greet me. “Congratulations!! Let me see your hand!” Meanwhile, other girls are craning their necks across the room. I was completely caught off guard — didn’t even know what she was referring to at first — and she could tell pretty quickly by my expression — but then said — “Oh, so you’re keeping it quiet for now?” What? No! I mean, yes, we are planning to get married yet, and i guess we are “pre engaged” but it’s not formalized. Ugh. So awkward. Then some other girl said “so I heard you talking to Girl 1!” Congrats” and i had to diffuse it again by explaining that, no, she must have had me confused with someone else.
Girl 1 felt bad, and came and chatted with me a bit later, but ended up asking me about my relationship and where it was going . . . . I feel happy about my relationship and told her we’re very serious and everything but not engaged yet . . . but yes, somehow all of that was painful for me because I would love to actually be engaged now, and it kinda made me feel like people are thinking “why hasn’t he proposed to her yet?” but really, London and I are on the same page, and that’s all that matters . .. . not what people think.
Anyway . . . has this ever happened to anyone else? How did you handle it?
Post # 3
Awkward! At least she didn’t think you were pregnant…I’d take a mistaken engagement over a mistaken pregnancy any day.
Post # 4
hahaha, you are so right! Things could have been much worse.
Post # 5
once when i thought i was about to be getting engaged, it turned out my guy had not been shopping for a ring – but cheating on me instead!!! when i saw people in my extended family, none of which knew what i was going through privately, they all gushed that i would be getting engaged/married soon, and i wanted to curl up and die.
Post # 6
@MrsTVLover: ‘Cause *that’ll* make the OP feel better…??? Sorry about your past situation but eep…
@LondonAmericana: Sorry for the awkward moment at the party. Don’t worry about what others may or may not be thinking. Most people are too consumed with their own worlds to analyze the details of others. You and your Mr. London are moving at the pace that is right for you and soon you will go back to Girl 1 and say, okay, re-do, come ask me again because I’ve got the ring this time. 😉 Smile and look forward to that big special moment of yours. You’re getting there!
Post # 7
Yep, I had that with a previous relationship. The first time I met his family was at his brother’s wedding. I had several extended family members ask us when our wedding was and why they weren’t invited. Not only did I not have an engagement ring, we had only been dating a few weeks by that time it was AWKWARD. That was an interesting wedding too as someone kept giving the grandmother in her 80s jello shots.
Post # 8
@Treejewel19: completely agree
Post # 9
Ugh. This was painful to read. I’m so sorry you had to have this conversation. There is nothing worse than having to EXPLAIN the validity of your relationship while getting the sideways head-tilt as if the other person is saying “Awww..she can’t get him to commit. Poor thing.”
Post # 10
LOL! One of my FIs employees made a comment about my beautiful ring, about a week before he asked me. Apparently, he had shown her and the other people in the office right after he bought it. She was mortified, I was stunned (but elated!) and I just let it go. Her comment was true, just a week premature.
Post # 11
Yes! I had a coworker ask me today “whens the wedding date?!”. lol We do have a date, but I didn’t tell her bc I don’t have my ring yet and its not official. People are so eager!
Post # 12
thank you so so much, ladies! your posts brought a smile to my face and showed me that i’m not alone 😉 thanks!!
Post # 13
I don’t usually get stuff like that. But normally when J and I go away together (even if it’s just a day trip) people always assume that I’ll come back engaged. And when I don’t, they say to me: “Aw, that sucks. I thought for sure you’d get engaged while you were away”. My response? “Ya, so did a lot of people. Sorry.”
I’m bitter today, lol.
Post # 14
haha last summer a few of my colleagues made a bet on another colleague getting engaged on vacation. I somehow missed the whole thing and never expected them to get engaged but one of the other women in the office was legit disapointed to hear she lost the bet when N came back w/o a ring. I can only imagine how that was awkard for N!
I think the best advice is better to be asked if you are engaged than asked if you are pregnant!