Friend says she has fantasized about having sex with her brother.. Thoughts?

posted 3 years ago in Intimacy
  • poll: Have you ever fantasized about having sex with your sibling? Honesty please. It's anonymous.
    HELL TO THE NO! : (378 votes)
    92 %
    Yes, but I wouldn't ever have sex with them. : (16 votes)
    4 %
    Yes, and I would have sex with them. : (3 votes)
    1 %
    Yes, and we have had sex. : (15 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 2
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    2245 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    alpinebride:  she needs to keep that information to herself. I’m an open minded person, but I would be speechless and completely creeped out if a friend told me she fantasized about incest. 

    Post # 4
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    4072 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    People have weird ass fantasies, so I wouldn’t be too concerned. But the fact that she said she would actually follow it through is definitely something I would find shocking. I wouldn’t say anything about it to her though.

    Post # 5
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    2245 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    alpinebride:  not overreacting at all! She’s lucky to have a friend like you who cares about her well being. many people would judge her harshly and gossip, if she shared those thoughts with them. 

    Post # 6
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

    alpinebride:  Not my thing but apparently it’s more common than you would think.  Unless it’s interfering with her daily life or she’s trying to rape/molest her brother, I wouldn’t worry too much about it.

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Okaaay… that’s definitely disturbing in my book. I mean, I think we’ve all had crazy thoughts popping up in our head from time to time. Like “AAaaaaah, I’m going to drop the baby, totally going to drop the baby!”. But I think that any of those out of the blue thoughts are usually followed up with “What the heck?! Of course I won’t drop the baby – evil thought go away!”. To hear that she’s actually FANTASIZING about her brother is way out there, because it’s no longer a crazy thing that showed up all uninvited, it implies that she actually actively spend time thinking about sleeping with her brother. Then adding that she would do it if he was into it… nope, that’s the point when I would suggest that she goes and talk to someone. Just does not sound healthy at all to me. 

    And for the record, I have a brother and the only physical contact I fantasize about having with him is giving his head a slap because he’s a moron.

    Post # 9
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    4483 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    Nope. I have a sibling of the gender I am normally attracted to, but nope. Nope.

    Post # 10
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    342 posts
    Helper bee

    I have 4 brothers, and actually one of them is absolutely gorgeous. Eyes to die for. I wouldn’t EVER in my wildest dreams, want to have sex with him. Even though I think he’s beautiful, sexual thoughts about him don’t even enter my mind…and eww!

    But, to each his own. I was actually thinking that maybe your friends fantasies were ok…UNTIL you said she’d act on them if he was into it. No. Something’s not ok about that.  No.

    Post # 11
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    1131 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I have way too many brothers, have never even considered fantasizing about them. I can see objectively that they’re handsome, but have never thought that they’re ‘hot’. The desire to consider them sexually is just totally absent. Maybe your friend didn’t live in close, rivalry-inducing quarters and never really developed an ‘eew he’s my brother’ feeling? Or maybe her brother is unusually, smokingly, Ryan Goslingly hot.

    I would only seriously recommend my friend see a psychologist if she were planning to act on her feelings, try to seduce her brother, etc., or if her fantasizing is a very common,  all-consuming thing and she is not able to be with/fantasize about anyone else.

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    alpinebride: A little passive aggressive perhaps… but honestly, I think that’s a much more common, and healthy, thought when it comes to ones brother! 🙂

    itsmle: I think you have a really good point, even if someone happens to have a sibling that looks good I think the normal reaction to the combination of sex and sibling is “EWW” regardless. When I posted my wedding recap I had a lot of bees commenting on how nice they thought my brother looked and I was all like “LOL! Little kiddo brother?! Nooooo, please! He’s just annoying! Really? You find him attractive… how odd”.  

    Post # 13
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    Hell no. I know it’s more common than you would think, but anyone who has those feelings really needs to keep them to themselves. In particular, you should suggest to her that she NEVER tells her brother about this. EVER.

    Also, acting on it? I mean, I have this fantasy where the mountie from Due South comes to my house and asks me if I want to spend 6 months on an ice floe with him, studying Inuit sociality. That doesn’t mean I would actually go with him if he showed up. Instead, I would be asking relevant questions… for example, who TF are you? Why do you look like the dude from Due South? Why are you riding a horse? How do you know where I live? Etc etc.

    Acting on a fantasy, or being prepared to, is a whole other ball game…

    Post # 14
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    7664 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

    OMFG someone in your survey actually had sex with their sibling…

    I am actually fascinated and horrified in equal measure…

    Post # 15
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    342 posts
    Helper bee

    OOoh! I hope they go anon and share THAT story!

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