Friend taking all my ideas… and her wedding is before mine!

posted 3 years ago in Decor
Post # 3
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620 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@TeachTennessee:  that is annoying – I know what you mean about not being materialistic, but I would be irritated if someone took my ideas. Are you close enough to her to talk about it? Maybe she doesn’t realize she took your ideas and your photos subconsciously influenced her. Also, if she is in early stages she might change her mind – my original ideas have changed a ton since a few months ago. If you don’t feel comfortable talking to her and it is really bothering you, could you add some other details to make it a little different? Or if you really don’t want similarities you could sell the decor and get new stuff. Or paint the wood slices and jars etc etc.

Post # 4
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620 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

 

@TeachTennessee:  also, I know it’s hard to think of it this way but honestly I can hardly remember anyone’s decorations  – all I remember are the toasts, dancing, and conversations with people. And the ceremonies. Those will all make your wedding unique and special. Your venue will be different as well. But if the decor being similar bothers you then I would add some little changes/DIY and not post them! : )

Post # 6
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2851 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Stop posting wedding details on Facebook or telling her anything.

Post # 7
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1333 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I understand how that would be upsetting. But all the stuff you mentioned is pretty on trend right now, so she could have gotten into it looking at wedding blogs, it could have nothing to do with your stuff. She could change her mind, or if its really upsetting you, you could sell her that stuff. Or, you could have a similar feel but a very different look if you keep everything else but change the flowers. Sorry! It sucks to have to change your ideas because of other people.

Post # 9
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2851 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@TeachTennessee:  Ya I don’t blame you. For me, I’m not doing any kind of social media updates about my wedding. People will see it when they see it, I think part of the fun is for your guests to be suprised!

Post # 10
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3016 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

I have to say, all the stuff you mentioned is exactly what is all over pinterest, etc.  It’s entirely possible that your friend just likes that same type of stuff. IN fact, I’d bet money that she doesn’t even remember what you posted. 

It still sucks, though. Anyway, I’m sure you’ll be a much cuter bride. 😉

Post # 11
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11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

You picked a super popular wedding theme! It’s possible she’s doing it on purpose, but I would probably just assume that she saw it on Pinterest and in Brides and loved the style!

Post # 14
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1892 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@TeachTennessee:  not to be harsh, but STOP posting pictures on fb, stop telling people your idea!! That was you biggest mistake. Plus that “theme” is very popular..

Post # 15
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277 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@TeachTennessee:  I’m in a similiar position. A friend just got engaged a couple weeks ago, but is getting married two months before us. She asked me what my colours were. I told her, as I’m not going to lie or hide that.  And she said she was doing the same colours. I was slightly disappointed, but they are just colours.  Then she said she is already going around to thrift shops collecting all the same items I have and said they are ordering the same groomsman suits we are.  Its a crazy coincidence as our groomsmen already ordered and we haven’t told anyone what they are wearing and I haven’t shown any one what I’m using for decor.  I really hope our weddings don’t look similiar, I would be so disappointed when I’ve spent so much time with this. We were engaged 5 months before them, and I’ve already collected most of my decor so I definitely don’t want to change things. I love the look I chose anyways, so nothing is going to change that. All I can hope is that we have a different overall look and based on different venues thats possible!  Or maybe we just love the same things and have the same tastes. Thats possible too!  With Pinterest, and all the wedding blogs, so many weddings are going to have the same themes, etc. but they will still be unique.

I’m keeping everything hush hush.  However, it has taken my FI awhile to figure that out and I wish he didn’t say things about our wedding to everyone in the beginning. He’s much better now!

 

 

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