Post # 1
Hi Bees. I am recently engaged, and a close friend of mine got engaged as well a few days after me. The first time that we saw each other after the engagement we, of course, wanted to see each other’s e-rings in person. I took mine off so that she could get a closer look at the engraving and other details and, without asking first, she tried it on! I was a little bit shocked and taken off guard by the situation. I didn’t know what to say! I ended up not saying anything at all, but I felt really uncomfortable. I couldn’t wait to get my ring back and on my finger.
While she didn’t take her’s off (I didn’t ask her to), even if she had I wouldn’t have dared try it on, ESPECIALLY without even asking first, out of sheer respect for it’s value and meaning to her and her fiance. How would you ladies feel about this. Am I over reacting?
Post # 2
SouthernBride1151: I think you’re overreacting. I’ve had a few people who are close to me try on my ring. Didn’t even phase me. I’d be weirded out if it was someone I was not close to, though.
Post # 3
I think it’s odd for anyone to just try on something of someone else without asking. Even with my close friends who I’ve shared tons of things with I’d ask first. Personally I’d just brush it off as eh…weirdo lol she must really like your ring look to have to try it on.
Post # 4
If you feel comfortable taking it off your finger and handing it to someone, I don’t think it’s that much of a stretch for her to try it on. If you’re holding a ring it’s very easy to just slip it on. It’s not like trying on someone else’s underwear.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t care. A few people have tried mine on.
Post # 6
Yeah, I’d agree you’re overreacting. You shouldn’t have taken it off and handed it to her if you didn’t want to run the risk of her trying it on.
Post # 7
SouthernBride1151: I wouldn’t really care. You are overreacting. I’m a little sister- I think it’s fun try people’s things on. That never changes when you get older. Don’t be silly and enjoy the fact that she so admired your ring she had to wear it herself.
Post # 8
What? U took of your ring and handed it to her. She prob thought u were of course cool with her trying it on.
Post # 9
You’re overreacting. You handed it to her- that right there probably signaled to her that you were okay with it. Really though, what’s the big deal? I don’t understand why people get so bent out of shape about people trying on their ring.
Post # 10
OMG I can’t believe she put it on! Now your fiance is going to marry HER!!!
No, seriously, you took it off, maybe she took that as an invitation to try it on? Either way, you’re over reacting. It’s a ring.
Post # 11
I do think you’re over-reacting, and I don’t think it was rude of her to try it on. I think it’s safer (from a standpoint of not dropping the ring!) for someone to put it on than to stand there clutching it between two fingers.
Post # 11
Another vote for overreacting. You handed her your ring and as pp stated, it isn’t much of a stretch after that for her to try it on. I don’t understand the big deal here. She didn’t suck the love out of it or invalidate your engagement, she slipped in on her finger for a moment.
Post # 13
SouthernBride1151: Sounds like a miscommunication to me. Next time someone wants to see your ring keep it on. I’m sure she didn’t mean anything by it.
Post # 14
Ya this would not bother me at all…
Post # 15
SouthernBride1151: Honestly, yes, I think you are overreacting and no, I don’t think your friend was rude. You handed her your ring so she assumed it was okay, or maybe even that you wanted her to try it on.
I’m very sentimental but I’ve never understood the notion of not wanting anyone else to try on the ring. I’ve let several people try on mine. Don’t get me wrong, you are not obligated to let anyone else try it if you don’t want to but if that’s the case, don’t hand it to anyone.
Women frequently try each other’s rings. There is no etiquette rule against it.