Post # 1
I have a “friend”, who believes she is invited to our wedding.
I never invited her…I guess she just assumed from the very beginning she would be invited.
I do not want to invite her because
1. I know she talks badly about me behind me back
2. When my fiance and I got engaged she was actually shocked and upset
3. She actually told people that my ring was small
Why would I want to invite someone that clearly is not in support of our decision?
Should I tell her that she is not invited, or just avoid her?
Post # 3
I’d try to avoid the subject and eventually she should get the hint. If she asks directly though, I’d tell her that due to space limits you can’t accommodate everyone, so she won’t be invited.
Post # 4
1. Don’t send her an invitation.
2. If she raises the subject of attending yor wedding, take the opportunity to tell her that you are unable to extend an invitation. Don’t make excuses about the budget, the size of the room etc. Some people try to come up with solutions instead of graciously accepting the fact that they are not invited.
Post # 5
If she asks you directly, give her a direct answer. Avoiding her is stooping to her level and just gives her more fodder. I’m very blunt so I would go over every point you listed, but I also understand that you may not have that luxury. 🙂
Post # 6
She’ll figure it out when she doesn’t get an invitation.
Post # 7
@julies1949: Great point. Some people don’t realize when you’re trying to shut the discussion down without just saying “no”.