Friend wore same wedding dress

posted 2 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

You’re overthinking this. Only 6 guests overlap, and most of them won’t notice anyway. Stay with the dress you chose and love.

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2015 - Chapel on Base

Your dress is beautiful.   I wouldn’t worry about getting a new dress.  Could you add a colored sash or some extra bling?  Maybe that will change it up enough to keep you from worrying about the 6 overlapping guests.  

Post # 4
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Blushing bee

Man, i woudlnt worry about it! BUT that girl is b****!! I’d be pissed!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

christin5135:  How is she a b****? From what OP has written, the new bride doesn’t know that OP has picked the same dress as her, and OP didn’t know it was the same dress prior to the wedding.

 

OP, it’s said a lot on here, but nobody cares about your wedding as much as you and your FI. I highly doubt that the six overlapping guests will notice it’s the same dress.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

happycamper8:  Oh, you poor thing. I can only imagine the feeling you must have gotten when you saw her in it for the first time. Nobody’s fault and not the end of the world, but definitely not a very nice situation!

Before going to this wedding, were you still happy with your dress? It’s a beautiful and classic style, and no two brides ever look the same, honest. I can imagine that with your different hair style, accessories, and, of course, your lovely self, that the similarities will not be as great as you expect. We notice these things much much more than anyone else ever would.

As long as you still love the style of dress, I would fully encourage you to wear it and embrace it as your own. Once the surprise of having seen this other bride wears off in a few days, I’m sure you’ll go back to thinking about it the same way as before and be incredibly excited to put it on for your wedding day. 

If you’re really unsure, maybe post some pics and we can help suggest ways you can really make your bridal look stand out as your own? Good luck!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

What did ur FI say about the dress?? 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

DanielleI:  Ooh that’s a good question!

Post # 10
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Worker bee

Oh bless you! I would definitely stick with the dress. Of course she looked gorgeous in it, it’s a gorgeous dress but you will look every bit as gorgeous and definitely more so to your FI.

 

i know what it’s like to lose the magic of the dress, a girl I know bought her dress from the same shop as me and the shop told her which dress I was wearing. It didn’t feel so magical and mystical for a while but I know that only I can wear it the way I wear it and that is what is important to FI. 

 

Try not to even think about it and remember that when you put it on, it goes from being just a wedding dress to the dress which will carry you to your husband. That’s what is most important 

Post # 11
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Newbee

Hi, I bought my Dress from the big chain Davids Bridal. Sooooo I decided I wanted my dress to look different than the chain of dresses so I added a swarski crystal sash from etsy, and had a seamstress add some swarski (?spelling) crystals to the my dress. I was so pleased with my dress and now it is an original… LOL! I hope you can add something different to your dress and make it your own. Take care and have A Blissful Wedding!

P. S. I am taking my one year anniversary pictures soon  in my wedding dress but now I am going to have the seamstress shorten the dress to above the knee, and make it a party looking dress. I will get a second chance at posing better for the camera as I am a plus size bride and my original wedding pictures were a disaster.

 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

happycamper8:   Don’t even think about it!  The same dress looks so different on different women.  You will look gorgeous in YOUR dress!!  

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

You do realize you won’t be the first nor the last probably to wear the wedding dress that you purchased unless you had it custom made. Your dress is not going to make the day.  The day is made by marrying the person you love not by oh my gosh another bride has/had the same dress. It is not a huge deal.  Rock your dress make the day yours and your new DH day. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Don’t fret! I went to 2 weddings within a few weeks of each other and the brides wore the same dress, and I didn’t even notice because they dressed them up so differently. I only knew because my friend was in both wedding parties and said something. I’d say get a sash and different accessories and you’ll be fine. Don’t give up your dream dress just because someone else had just as good as taste as you.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

It wasn’t the same dress, but my mom’s family has had 3 weddings in the past year, including mine.  All three of us independently chose the same shade of blue for our wedding color.  Each of our grooms wore bow ties.  Each bride wore ivory dresses with lace cap sleaves.  You know who noticed this other than me and maybe the two other brides?  No one.  I pointed out to my mom the similarities at the last wedding, and we both laughed because even though she was a part of planning my wedding (and a huge part at that) she didn’t notice at all.

At the end of the day, because it is your wedding, you wearing the dress, and your FI/DH with you, its going to be different by default.   I think all three of us would have been sad if we gave up the wedding details we loved because one of the others did it first. 

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