Post # 1
When I was first starting to wedding plan, I was really concerned about our budget. I wanted it to be as nice as we could afford, but not to splurge or over-pay. I asked other friends how they saved on their weddings, and they said they saved by hiring friends as vendors.
Well, let’s see. The friend of my FI we hired as a photographer quit a month ago due to divorce (understandable). The friend of a friend DJ quit as his photographer buddy was no longer coming and providing transportation.
Oh yeah, and I just had to cancel my favor orders from a friend of a friend because I found out how prejudiced she is against LBGT people.
All of the professionally hired vendors–so far so good–no problems!
Did anyone else have as much trouble from “friend” vendors as I did?
Post # 3
When my FI and I got engaged, I think I wrongly assumed that all of our friends and family were just going to jump on the Happy Train with us, and would be more than willing to help out with our wedding. In my head I thought, my brother, who is a catering manager for a restaurant would LOVE to cater for us, my neice who loves to sew would be HAPPY to make the flowergirl and/or bridesmaid dresses, My friend the great photographer would LOVE to do our pictures. Yeah…not so much. They are happy for us, to the extent that it does not inconvenience them, as anyone would be. I had to realize that I was actually a little selfish expecting them to just jump in and help or take a role that they didn’t really want in our wedding. Friends and Family are guests and should be treated that way.They are not and should not be your vendors. I dialed down my expectations, and now everyone is happy.