Post # 1
Im so angry I could spit. So I just got off the phone with the owner of the space where we are having our afterparty. He’s a friend of FI and let us rent out the club on a Saturday nite. he gave us a price which has been paid in full. Today, when talking to him he mentions me paying the 25% gratutity on the day of. Ummmm say what!!!!! Thats an additional 500 bucks that I have 2 weeks to come up with out of my pretty much spent it all wedding budget. Now before everyone jumps on me, we paid full price for open bar at this place for 5 hours. The only concession that he made was closing to the public on a Saturday night. We paid 2000 for 80 max people for the bar.Not all 80 people will even be there the whole night. Its a very casual in and out kind of thing. We also paid for all 3 of the dj’s (which he would normally do) and had planned on tipping the other bartender who was working 150 bucks and would allow him to have a tip jar. I also know that most of our guests would tip as well. For the owner, we have already purchased a VERY nice gift because he is my FI’s friend and we do appreciate him.
Am I being unreasonable since he just now mentioned this additional 25%. Every other vendor that I have spoken with told me up front what my charges were gonna be. I wanted to know that so I can budget. If I had known that I needed an additional 500 bucks for the bar I would not have done some of my wants that I added last min, because we had a little “extra” money because I was able to save in other areas. I just hate that I have to now dip into savings because of this.
Post # 3
No, I don’t believe you’re being unreasonable if this gratuity has NEVER been mentioned before. Did you use a contract? If so, look through it to be sure this 25% wasn’t mentioned in there – and then I’d just call him on it, and say it was never in the contract and you don’t appreciate being told 2 weeks out.
Post # 4
I’d look at your contract if you have one. If nothing has been mentioned about gratuity then you can choose to tip what you think he deserves for the service provided.
Post # 5
He should have mentioned it, but in turn you should also realize that with things like this automatic gratuity is a given. Lesson learned, not paying the service charge would make you guys look extremely ungrateful. I’d pay it and chalk it up to one of those things.
Post # 6
Of course we dont have a contract. I asked for one, but FI said I was being pushy and the ” he’s got this”, well here we are.
@fvsoccer – we have no contract and his place is small and honestly as the owner he deserves no tip. his emploee on the other hand is another story which is why I planned on tipping him and allowing a tip jar.
@mixtapehearts – You are right he should have mentioned it. Also automatic graturity is not always a given. I have 2 caterers for our wedding day (ceremony brunch & afterparty) and both said gratuity is up to me. Auto gratuity may be a given where you are from but its not in St. Louis. As for ungrateful we spent over 200 bucks on a gift for him that is going back to the store tomorrow so that we have the money to pay him his extra 25%. Im just glad I didnt have it personalized yet. It was never our intention to stiff him. But I will tell you I will have signs on the bar saying your money is no good here and to please not tip as we have done this for you.