(Closed) Friends

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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1414 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I can relate.

It IS hard to make new friends as an adult… :-/

My advice is to join a fun class somewhere…(like at a tech college).

I have met so many new people through taking courses.

Post # 5
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74 posts
Worker bee

@funkymunky85:  I can completely relate.  Most my friends are men or are friends of my SO.  It’s really frustrating because even though I can talk to him about anything, he just doesn’t think like a girl and sometimes I need someone who thinks like a girl to tell me if I’m really being unreasonable.  The problem with this is that I don’t really like being involved with drama so I always kind of back away from most of the women I’ve tried to befriend due to their drama.

Post # 8
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2401 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@funkymunky85:  You know I can relate but what is worse is that I do live close to my friend. The problem is that I would say about 80% of my friends are getting divorced.  The problem is that they are busy out partying and taking trips to Vegas.  As a newlywed, I dont have any desire for that. I do ask them to meet up for dinner, lunch, movies, spa days but they are not interested in that so I am left out on their plans. 

I find it hard to trust people I just meet so I dont go outside my box. Maybe I should but now a days, you never know what people are about. 

Post # 9
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2401 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@epilove:  I agree and I dont know about you but I could vent to my husband like I would a girlfriend but he always wants to fix whatever it is I am venting about. 

Post # 10
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2877 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@funkymunky85:  i moved to mexico and as much as i try to stay in contact, i feel like im losing my friends slowly =(  we have fun when we meet up, but its less than once a year now..

i have my fi’s friends…but no one im really close to (the language barrier doesnt help of course) and i kind of miss having *my* friends. like if my fi and i had an argument – i couldnt takl to anyone here about it or itd get back to him with 5 minutes. and with the time difference i cant always talk to friends abck home

so i dont have any advice whatsoever im afraid, but i feel exactly the same! would love to find a friend just to hang out with and talk to, rather than someone who talks to me because im with my fi…(like his friends wives/gfs)

Post # 12
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43 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

You sound EXACTLY like me! I just moved 4 hours away from home because my FI got a job, so I moved here with him. All of my friends are either still at home, or around the country. I, like you, am the youngest person at work. I do not relate to any of the women I work with, and for the most part all they do is talk about other people I work with, which is something I don’t want to be involved with…so I end up keeping to myself. Thankfully, my FI works with all younger people, and we alway go out with them and their significant others. It’s hard, because I can’t relate to these new girls like I can my friends (I’ve been friends with some of my friends from home for 20 plus years), but it’s still nice to be able to go out, and hang out with other people. Just last weekend, I had a “girls night” with 2 of them because the guys were playing poker. It was a lot of fun, so I’m hoping I will be able to have more girls nights more often.

I have found as you get older, friends start dwindling, and it does get harder to make new friends. You are lucky you still have friends you can see, and are just a phone call away. Quality is better than quantity!

Post # 14
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2877 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@funkymunky85:  its kind of nice to hear other people dont like partying! i never was much of a clubber or goign to loud nights to dance…and people here do seem to like that!

spa or shopping days would be perfect!

@Mrs.Jansen:  actually, a long time ago i read one of those self help books about relationships, the differences between men and women etc. men hear a problem and want to fix it, when the women often just want someone to listen to them and offer a hug

My fi does not get why when i say i get lonely, couples weekends with his friends arent my thing – like last weekend. he and his friend went to play golf all day sunday, and i got left with the friends wife. normally id be “yay, company” but this time i was “oh for the love of god i need think of something to say in spanish, this silence is so awkward. oh shes looking at me. er….”im hungry”. crap. i am a terrible conversationalist. oh dear, shes gone back to her room”

Post # 15
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2401 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@funkymunky85:  Yes, wouldnt that be great. I do have one friend whom I love and our idea of girl time is coffee and a chick flick.  The only problem is that she has 5 small children and its hard for her to get out much. 

 

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